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all right so we are gonna move on next to Oh the toe and loop stud detail slip-on wedge sandal we're gonna do the 10 e to right in this all right aren't even the mare not all right so this is fantastic and this is another walk on the wild side this is brand new so this is for all of you that think girls that can wear them look so darn cute in the what are they called but just a simple song right a simple thought yeah right I cannot wear a simple thong because I get blisters in between my toes because of the toe post because the toe like the little tiny toe thing but when you have a toe loop it completely changes the game right it gives you that same sexy sassy look but it completely covers and supports that toe so you don't get the alley alley alleys in between the toes which I love and again you do not have a very big distance between the heel and if you'll notice the front is actually lifted so you've stepped more than just that one inch in front this I would wear all day long so here's what we have we have available for you the we're calling this black snake but the black snake to me I would have probably called grey snake we only have 30 of these oh I got a hurry only 30 then we have the brown snake which would be my pick that the one yeah that's what Becky chose how expensive does that look really a four dozen of them and then last but not least the one that's done for you and more of that faux suede leopard this is brand-new and we only have a couple dozen of each we've got a hurry Wow I think they shot before and you know what you're seeing so much variety you're seeing the animal print in almost every silhouette we've shown you it's about picking your picking your favorite picking a slide on style like kandi said that has that toe post and also wraps around it is so elegant it looks to me like a hundreds if I mean it really truly looks like genuine exotic it's a little different heel height on this one – we've got about two and a half inches on one and a quarter inch platform but kandi mentioned it see that rocker technology as it moves forward as Shana kind of takes that step she can rock forward that's kind of helping her with her natural stride it gives her comfort in a really nice padded footbed and then again a whisper light quark outsole means that you've got something or midsole rather that again is whisper light on the foot so instead of doing heels that are clip-clopping heavy this is so light on the foot and so pretty on the foot I love this and I never wear thongs I've never found a thong I could wear I think you like this it was a full to wrap yeah which this is it gives you that full toe wrap oh man I'm having a tough time choosing but I think I think Becky is the winner winner chicken dinner I think it's about personality so I'm sure this is sort of I think most women can do this one if you I want a party with Shana though I love that I think she is fun and especially if you haven't done animal print yet you know you're not gonna do it head to toe a little simple slide on shoe with a basic black dress how easy is that I just have jeans on and a little tank top and then let that be your personality especially if you dress more classic you do like you know more of the more the solids let this be your little little attitude and if black is really your black rather than brown so for me 90% of time I wearing brown only in black or brown yeah 90% of time I'm a Brown 10% in black but if you're the opposite of that if black is your color then I would maybe go with this one which we are calling black snake but just know it's predominantly this beautiful gray yeah like a grey snake or white snake yeah so the leopard is definitely out keeps throwing me in my ear because he keeps calling it leo part and that's how many times you can say leo pard you know my ear do you know what half or I say it it happens though I always say it's called don't hit the pole you wonder why people on the highway HIPAA pole it's because of all the places you could have gone you said don't hit the pole and hit the pole this is what happens we had a girl who used to say orchard for orchid and I would giggle and giggle and giggle well guess what I got an orchid top and Hulu trotted right out and called it Orchard oh yeah yep oh you gotta be careful be careful just to know this all shoes are available on six easy monthly interest rate value payments and though this is a full hour dedicated to Corky's we have a lot more online at shop hq.

com so that is the brown snake the black snake the one that has the gray background only 20 pairs left and this is brand spanking new we mean talk about size I realized that I'm a half size so I go up so I'm a nine and a half I wear a 10 in quirk ease and it works beautifully again open toe open heel so if this were you know closed toe we might have to be more specific with sizing this is a slip on style so full sizes only and in Corky's I always book that half size nice so I'm an 8 and a half I go to the 9 perfect it's just the easiest way to do it other than that I would say true to size yeah I agree on this girl's everybody yeah that's true to size should we do our narrow wide test Shawna what's the what's the vote from the narrow community I think it looks good yeah this is nice yeah I'm sort of a medium Natalie what are you you're medium length medium width we don't have any wide widths here we have incident Natalie's hair yet not seen a mess here yet I think it's so jazzy and I don't want it to grow out which because we're focused on feet I know but she wouldn't have to go like go upside down it is a lotus flower maybe she can go into a yoga pose oh it should be a tree all right so these are selling out with fewer than a hundred pairs available brand spanking new first airing and they may go in.

um literally all winter long I love your recommendation your husband wears them with his suit the Blackwell right absolutely he loves them because they no longer I don't know what it is with men's dress socks I know they all fall down they all fall down and they're quite pricey yeah for what you're getting this right here you're getting a pack of three for $19.

99 six value pay of three dollars and 33 cents plus a buy more save more of three dollars off each additional pack of three that you add on so the second set it's going to be $16.

99 on zero zero two two two eight so it was a big deal the combination of compression and infer absolutely is the first company to bring this to you exclusive at shop HQ with you you know they're my faith they're your faith and you know what they're my fate do I wear these as well um I gave this to my aunt I said these to her she had a stroke last year and her legs are so cold always her circulation was really bad I thought that compression you wouldn't make her feel better she loves them so five out of five stars energizing these are now my go-to socks calves and feet feel great after a long day I wish I purchase more when they were on sale I might pick up some at the current price they are so worth it Wow thank you so much for that nice and kind review okay so that's item number zero zero two two to eight we really do appreciate you taking the time to write the reviews everyone as we continue on with Chris only 15 more minutes now you get reduced shipping when you add on the mid-calf stock it's the three pack or the six pack on zero zero two three six nine forty percent off and we do have those in the black and the white choice as well if you just need compression in your feet these are the ones that I have I work out in these I live in these oh my gosh I love them zero zero two two three four $12.

99 for the three pack $19.

99 for the six pack but then we have three dollars off each additional one to think about that you're going to get that second three pack for under $10 they're also my fav I I brought him up to the cabin this weekend of yes we can find everybody's like wait what are those night I told the whole infrared story and I think everybody has online you're always working she's always motivated always working we love that about you okay so let's move into our set of two infrared compression knee sleeves we've sold over seventeen hundred and sixty-five of these since the debut in September we do have a buy more save more of three dollars off each additional one that you do add on so the second one's going to be eleven dollars and ninety nine cents so and by the way that reduced shipping is down to 249 whenever we say reduced shipping it's half the price of the shipping and handling that you see on the first one so what who needs a nice Lee so anybody who says my knee bugs me which is like I don't know it's the percentages but it's a high percentage of Americans if you have a knee issue from being overweight or your joints are stiff if you have a knee issue from a high school football injury or whatever it might be a nice leave is that same concept of compression you've seen pro athletes using it for years it's given that little bit of hug into an area that needs attention to support the stiff floor muscles and joints and it's going to help you revitalize and feel good now the idea behind the sleeve is not to make you immobile is to improve your mobilization so it leads to help you bend and stretch and move and feel better throughout the day oh I love that and you know what when you're using your ultra core or that bike and you're getting started it really is easy on the joints but when you're working out where this right exactly and I wanna I'm gonna ask the visuals if I can get a measuring tape I do want to be able to show you because the waves measure these is so important I want you to know that that really makes a difference because I said it earlier with compression too much or too much too little is too little Johnny locks okay not just the whole thing that's right just right so I just found out we are going back to ultra core are we at guys we have so many people still in the ordering process and they want it's a new low price at $39.

99 and they want to see we're not okay I had you run through those five exercises ever is like oh they wanted well so let me make a point she's handing you this right now because this is such an important item so many people love this but when you order in what I want you to do is take a measuring tape not so much go five inches above your kneecap got it and then go around this is the part of the thigh that you are you are measuring you are not measuring this your kneecap yes during five inches up now I am about a 15 and a half 16 let okay the sizing real quick we have small medium or large extra-large and there you go so just order correctly and you know get them and then you could have one in your gym bag one on your knee one on both knees give one to your partner put one in the laundry these are game change and it's five inches again above the center of your knee and our sales associates have all that information for you these are 50% off your true energy set up to infrared compression these sleeves and I don't think you can ever be too young right you're young teenagers that are playing sports no oh this is for all ages listen if you have somebody who is you know in youth sports and their knee bothers them this is going to be great if you are that person who says hey you know I got old college you know volleyball married nags me this is gonna be great wear this under your tights ladies wear this under your leggings near jeans it's so thin no one will know you have it on but if this means that you can go holiday shopping with the grandkids if this means that you can get out and sightsee on your vacation if this means that you can go to work and not complain about your knee hey it's worth trying we have a really nice little band on the inside that keeps it from falling down I like that so it's gonna stay up on your leg it's good silicone grippers right and it's the true energy story of infrared compression the infrared particles are woven into the fabric yeah therefore vivid animation for this to re-energize yeah let's look at this because multi-directional compression stretch so remember it's not a brace it helps you move but the anti slip top and then the particles that are infused into the fabric that are going to redirect the heat into the muscles that literally help you improve your circulation or joint movement your soreness and stiffness it's pretty incredible it is pretty incredible we have to move on because we're going back to ultra core okay zero zero two four six seven she's already always ready for another workout I mean I am burning calories today we do have some testimonials on the knee sleeve that I want to roll through here I'm so glad I tried the true energy knee sleeves I have minor circulation issues in my right leg and I've been wearing the sleeve mostly at night for that reason the sleeve is comfortable and while at the same time giving support and compression I could tell a very positive difference after wearing the sleeve for just one night thanks again for inducing for introducing me to this technology but it's our pleasure to our customers to bring you unique and different products now let's go online we have a lot of great healthy choices for you on shop hq.

com so go check that out and are today's top deal we had the final presentation on our toes L throw look at how beautiful this is what about sunglasses I bought sunglasses as holiday gifts last year for my kids I even got him nice designer pair for myself for our beach trip as well okay now it is time for us to go back to ultra core I'm so excited for everybody on this what a great great deal brand-new low price of under $40 $39.

99 zero zero to one to two is your item number it will arrive 100% assembled so let me share with everyone what you're getting in the final five to six minutes it's going to be a really fast presentation on our ultra core max it's the foldable full body and again it arrives 100% assembled so this is the black choice it's always a customer favorite this is great for Dad great for your grandpa great for your brother maybe your son if the guys want to keep it really cool and edgy looking in the black choice you also get a yoga mat included how much do you pay for just a yoga mat when you're out there shopping is at $19.

99 is it $24.

99 this whole offering is $39.

99 then check this exercise guide out I had Chris to quickly go through five or six exercises at the end of our last presentation and they said the phone lines went wild I'm gonna walk her through the same thing in a minute so stay tuned and then you also have a DVD so we have the black choice we have the red choice right here for those of you that love that holiday red color Red's always been just one of my favorite colors Chris Freytag is back everyone she is our health and wellness coach here at shop HQ.

today's special totally I'm gonna grab this one and let me grab the cover okay grab these two so completely different experience totally different story same great name and I love this is the kind of thing you you know from Clark's is give me something I can wear with

everything and then of course we have those days when we want to do that casual more flip-flop design but you know what a flip-flop usually is it's cardboard and it falls apart and it's not even worth a penny you know and you spend a lot of money on

it or you get the quality of clerks and this is now the cloud stepper collection which is a different story from our today's special but still all surrounding that idea of comfort if you know my Michelle first I'm gonna do all the colors right because there's so many

great colors in this and then we'll go to the phones and I promise I'm going to take your call in one second so if we start right here check this out do you love that special little aqua box or do you love your turquoise jewelry this is a

gorgeous aqua and I got a bet you probably don't have that color in your wardrobe it's beautiful then beside here black is easy this is gonna be the black so that's great for everyday and everybody then we have this awesome Navy I love the contrasting stitch on here

this is a great color this is a pewter that totally caught my eye earlier in fact that's the color I'm wearing I wanted to wear those then look how fun these are this is the red you've got the rose gold in front of you and then the furan

we have white this is six through 12 it is medium sizes and whole sizes only now what if I'm a half-size what should I do so if your half-size you want to size up okay well I'm a seven and a half so I have an eight today right

and I'm an eight and a half so I'm wearing the nine right now yeah okay yeah let's talk pricier because it's huge these are 41 64 yeah my producer who wears sandals he says I'll buy a shoe with a lot less features and they're $80 easily you know

and so we have four flex pays at ten dollars and 41 cents on any major credit card if you want to take that as an option okay so where did we begin with these little youngsters these are so amazing these are from our cloud supper line which are

a cloud stopper line debuted in 2015 it's all about that light wait comfort and just softness from the very first step we truly created this line for you to love every step that you're taking so this is that sandal that is not going to over time like you

mentioned you're not gonna need to throw it away because it's going to last season after season you've got that polyurethane upper which looks like a leather again but super durable so if you're at the beach or at the pool and you get sand on this just run it

under the faucet okay I mean really I could have sworn this is leather I didn't know it wasn't leather that it looked that awesome and then you've got that little hook and loop closure on the top so again if you've got a high instep or a low instep

that's totally adjustable but you don't need to adjust it you know once it's in place of where you need where you want it and then we've got a fabric little toe post so it's not gonna be like that hard leather that digs in between your toes it's super

soft in between it's gonna feel like it's broken in right out of the box now let's show them the bed itself because there's a whole story behind the layers on this bed so this here shows you all the layers of cushioning that you are getting underneath your foot

it's truly amazing so and just to let you know an average comfort brand' shoe has 4 to 5 millimeters this has 16 mililiters millimeters I'm sorry here 16 so that's more than triple of what a normal comfort brand' shoe has so you're getting six millimeters of that Evie

a foam that's what they use to make running shoes so it's super lightweight and flexible and it's gonna absorb any shock then we've got a piece of insole board and then 10 millimeters of that Evie a outsole which again is going to absorb any shock and we could

have stopped there but we added that extra layer of that thermoplastic rubber so that's gonna give you that great grip in traction when you're you know in the pool this summer chasing the kids around you need to be make sure you're not slipping and sliding around it's really

crazy how many layers of comfort you're getting in this shoe and think about it you maybe have seen little sandals that are out there they're $200 and they're made of cardboard and you know he's like oh wife and you're gonna throw them away every penny and what you

hit one puddle and they completely dissolve on your feet and they fall apart and they're miserable and awful and there's no there's no support for your foot whatever you can really feel the support built into these anyway we again size-wise it's 6 through 12 these are medium or

whole sizes only if you're a half size go up all right head back to the phone's business shell it's myself Suzanne where are you from and what's your name oh hi this is Claire hi Claire are you from Claire I'm with you watching the mermaids are there absolutely

well we're so I'm so happy that HSN is carrying them there I can't get them in a department store I because smaller size I carry it oh and I wear either a 5 or or 5 and a half yeah and by the way in the sports sandals tell

the women to not go up a size go damn well no we go up if you're a half size well if you're wrong and a half size but in the class steppers I normally take a 5 in the ones you're showing I have them I also have them

in the Aqua it is very beautiful yeah I mean a little bit more room and that's amazing and the white and I have sort of coral color well this is a perfect shoe all my shoes that are comfortable on me sure absolutely God that you're carrying them at

HSN well thank you for being with us there thanks for joining us tonight and you I ordered the white and the black and I have a white and a black already but they were different and I figured I go there but I've been I saw the sandals before

you put my pulse and the lunch and I might have to go back and order them well I would sort it and thank you so much Claire for joining it says I loved her enthusiasm she's really like I've had a lot of these sandals and they're great and

please say

– Hey, everybody.

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(congregation applauds) Man, thank you so much for taking time to fill out that survey.

I don't know what it is about our culture but we hate filling outthings, we hate doing anything.

And I don't wanna talk toyou today about a survey, I wanna talk to you about a list in heaven that you need to sign up for.

The Book of Revelations saysthere's a book in heaven.

On the Day of Judgment, it will be opened.

And your name is eitherin that book or it's not.

And there are no mistakes, there's no errors.

It's a perfect bookwritten by a perfect God.

And the thing is your nameis written in that book based upon your choice.

And I've gotta be honest with you, I didn't sleep very well last night.

Any time I know that I'mgonna give an invitation, an opportunity forpeople to receive Christ, a get a little anxious.

And Ithink that that's a good thing 'cause if I was gonna dobrain surgery on you today, I would hope that you would think I would be a little anxious because a lot could go wrong in that.

But today it's not justyour life that's at stake, it's your eternal life that's at stake.

And we're in this seriescalled “Relational Remix” where we're looking athow to change the way we relate to ourselves, to our friends, to our husbands or wives, our kids.

And today I wanna talk to you about how to change the way you relate to God.

Because I meet people all the time who are not interested in church.

They're not interested in religion.

And they say things likethis, “Me and God are good.

” And they assume that they get to decide how the relationship is going.

You know, I've been married for 23 years, you've got to meet my wife last week, she was up on stage with me.

If you asked me, “How is yourrelationship with Tammy?” You know it's one thing for me to assume, it's another thing for me toask Tammy, “How are we doing?” She might have a different answer than me.

Amen, husbands? God might have adifferent answer than you.

You're like, “Me and God are good.

” And God's like, “Why don'tyou ask me how we are?” And that's what I wannaencourage you today.

Ask God how are you, because may be calling you to change the way yourelate to him forever.

So let's begin with a word of prayer.

God, we ask that your HolySpirit would be amongst us, God, that you wouldstrengthen, Lord, my voice, my heart, my spirit, God, and that you would just movein the hearts of us today.

And Lord, if there's somebodyhere today, even one, that needs to make a decision so that their name iswritten in the Book of Life, God, I pray that they raise their hand at the end of the service, they repent of their sins, and they believe in your son Jesus Christ.

So be with us today, we praythis in Jesus' name, amen.

I wanna share with youa seminal story for me in terms of my understanding of God and the vision of our church.

Why is Sandals soconcerned with being real? And this is one of thosestories that Jesus tells that helps us tounderstand why authenticity is so close to the heart of God.

Jesus tells this story.

“He told this story tosome, ” underline this, “who had great confidencein their own righteousness.

” And let's stop there, I don't wanna talk about the next part.

We live in a culture wherepeople have great confidence in their own self-righteousness.

You see, that's why youthink you don't need God.

Because you're good.

You're good.

You've got this.

You don't need God, you don'tneed organized religion, you don't need Jesus, you'regood, you've got this.

We live in a world whereeverybody thinks they're good.

We're good in our core, our desires are all good, our actions are all good.

Listen to me, this ishow self-righteous we are as a culture.

75 years ago, all the Disneycharacters that were evil, now movies are coming out likethey're really not that bad.

I mean, some of you took yourlittle girls to see a movie called “Maleficent, “and the word means evil, and you're like, “Iknow what we should do.

“Let's take our little girls “to watch evil perform on stage.

” And now we've gotta learn the backstory 'cause evil's not that evil.

Well, let me tell you something.

The Bible says, “Evil'sevil and good is good.

” And Disney's trying to rewriteit but God already wrote it.

And we need to know this.

Not everybody's good, noteverybody's going to heaven.

Every funeral I do, everybody's going to heaven.

It doesn't matter how they lived.

It doesn't matter what they did.

It doesn't matter whatthey believed about, Jesus.

Everybody's in heaven, playing golf, out in glamor on the sand with Jesus.

Everybody's surfing withJesus, knitting with Jesus, which would be hell for me.

(congregation laughs) If I'm knitting, I'm inhell, I'm not with Jesus.

(congregation laughs) And literally what we've made, heaven is simply ourhobbies forever with God.

And Jesus says, “Listen to me.

“Broad is the road thatleads to destruction.

” It's 91 Freeway.

You already know what that's like, you wanna be there forever? Think about a traffic jam forever and nobody's fixing it and you're stuck.

Forever.

“Broad is the road thatleads to destruction.

” Jesus says, “There's apath up through the hills.

“Narrow is the path that leads to life “and there are few that find it.

” So the world says we're all good, Jesus says, “No, you're not.

” No, you're not.

“Jesus told this story tosome who had great confidence “in their own righteousness, “oh and by the way, “and scorned everyone else.

” You see, when you're self-confident, it's because you're not focused on God, you're focused on people.

And that's why we don't feel bad.

We don't feel bad about ourselves because we're not looking atGod, we're looking at people.

You're looking at your neighbor.

You're looking at your friends.

Tammy and I went to Disneyland, and I'm not big into rides.

I'm old now, I get dizzylooking at rides spin.

I can't even look at theteacups, how sad is that? That's how old I am.

People on the teacups, “Ah!” I'm like, “I can't even look, I'll vomit on you right now.

” But I don't like to ride therides, I like to watch people.

And let's be honest, we don't watch people, we judge people, amen? Nobody goes bird watching, that bird needs to lose weight.

(congregation laughs) Nobody does that.

We judge people.

We look down, wow, thesepeople are out of shape.

We judge people, we're critical of people.

We look at people whoare lower than ourselves and it gives us confidence.

You see, we feel lifted upwhen we put others down.

The problem is you're notgonna stand before people on Judgment Day, you're gonnastand before Almighty God.

And suddenly the tables are turned.

I remember years ago I didmy first Ironman Triathlon.

And if you don't know what an Ironman is, it was literally invented bya bunch of drunk military guys in Hawaii who had too much beers.

And you had a swimmerarguing against a runner, who is the better athlete? And so they picked cycling, that way it would make it fair.

And so the swimmer raced the runner and literally they picked the longest distance in the Olympics.

2.

4-mile swim.

They picked the longestrunning event in the Olympics, the marathon.

And they rode their bikes around Hawaii, Oahu, which is 112 miles.

'Cause they were stupid.

And apparently there's morethan just 10 stupid guys on earth and so a bunch of people started doing and now it's a sport.

So I decided I would do it.

(congregation laughs) I remember the weekendright before my race.

A bunch of people knew I was doing it, they were praying forme and encouraging me.

I trained real hard.

And this old lady comesup to me and she's like, “Pastor, I'm praying for you.

“And I was like, “Thank you.

” She says, “I hope you win.

” I said, “Win? “I'm trying to survive.

” (congregation laughs) And she said, “Pastor, you'rethe fittest person I know.

” I said, “Well, I'm not racing you.

” (congregation laughs) Listen to me.

You're not racing your neighbor.

You're not racing your brother.

You're racing Jesus.

He's the author and theperfecter of our faith.

He's the one that ran the race and won.

And you know what that means? That means Mother Teresa falls short.

That means the Pope falls short.

That means your pastor falls short.

That means you fall short.

But people are still arrogant because our stupidity knows no bounds.

You ever met somebody that'sso confident and you're like, you don't say this out loud butsecretly you're like, “Why?” (congregation laughs) Jesus says, “Two men wentto the Temple to pray.

” I don't care if you're a man or a woman, young or you're old, I don'tcare what your ethnicity is.

Every single one of you is gonna identify with one of these two people.

You're either gonna feel like you're totally separate from God and there's no way God canfix the mess you've made, or you feel like God's prettylucky to have you on his team.

He says, “Two men wentto the Temple to pray.

“One was a Pharisee, “and the other was adespised tax collector.

” Write in your notes, they're both brilliant.

One studies theology andphilosophy, he's the Pharisee.

Speaks multiple languages.

Has memorized the whole Bible.

Think about that, memorized the whole Bible.

Some of you don't evenknow where your Bible is.

Memorized the whole Bible.

Another person is a genius inmathematics and calculations, algebra.

Both geniuses, one with math, one with philosophy and theology.

One chooses to devote their life to being perfect before the eyes of God.

Another one chooses their life to rip off their neighborsand their friends because tax collectors in theday and age of Jesus Christ didn't just collect taxes, they stole money from people for Rome.

So imagine you'reneighbor, you're buddies, you went to school together.

You get conquered by a foreign power.

And your nextdoor neighbordecides to go work for them and makes you pay taxes and oh by the way gauges you and tells you youowe more money than you do and they put it in their own pocket and they get wealthy while you get broke.

Tax collectors are hated.

Pharisees are esteemed.

“One was a Pharisee, the otherwas a despised tax collector.

“The Pharisee stood by himself.

” Isn't it amazing howself-righteousness likes to be alone? That's why some of you don'tthink you need small group, you're good.

I'm good, I don't need a group.

“Two men went to Temple.

“One was a Pharisee, one's tax collector.

“The Pharisee stood byhimself, he prayed this prayer.

“'Oh I thank you, God, I'mnot like other people.

'” Man! “I'm not like these people.

“Cheaters, sinners, and adulterers.

“I'm not like these people.

” You see, this guy goes to church and he feels like he'sgotta take a bath afterwards 'cause he's been around fungus.

And then he points.

“I'm certainly not likethat tax collector.

” Let me tell you something, as you age, that's how you know you're getting old.

When you're young, youtalk smack about people and you just look at them.

When you're old, you point.

My kids are like, “Dad, you're pointing.

” I'm like, “No, I'm not.

” (congregation laughs) Oh.

Life always puts my finger down.

They say, “Don't point.

” And I'm like, “I wasn't.

” “I'm certainly not like thattax collector, ” he says.

“I fast twice a week.

” Some of you can't go anhour without a Snickers bar.

Oh I'm suffering for Jesus.

I skipped second breakfast.

(congregation laughs) This guy only eats five days a week.

Two days a week, he eats nothing.

Some Pharisees, listento me, in the desert ate no food and drank no water.

He says, “I fast twice a week.

“Oh, and by the way, Igive you 10% of my income.

” So one guy steals from people, another guy takes 10% of hisincome and gives it to God.

“But the tax collectorstood at a distance.

“He dared not even lift hiseyes to heaven as he prayed.

“And he beat on his chest in sorrow.

“He said, 'O God, be mercifulto me, '” underline this.

“I'm a sinner.

” You see, some of you, you think God's impressed with your life.

You know what the Biblesays about your life? It says your best words, your best works, your best day are filthyrags before the Lord.

And you know why that is? You've never met God.

You compare your sin to others.

You need to compare your sin to God.

Let me tell you howholy, how awesome God is.

Even the most holy angels, the seraphim, who stand before the throne of God, dare not look at God, theycover they eyes with their wings and they cover their feetlest they stand in the temple.

They won't stand on theground because it's holy and they won't look atGod because he's holy.

And you think one day you'regonna stand before God and he's gonna be impressedwith what you did? This is the same God whospoke however many years ago and told the Earth to sitand spin and it still does.

I can't even get my dogto sit for a minute.

And then some of you, you feellike you're so far from God, you're so part from God, there's no way God could ever save you, God could ever redeem you.

I want you to know you're wrong.

I'm reading a book right now.

It's an incredible book.

It's written by a homosexual man who sold drugs, dropped out of med school, and went to prison as a federal criminal.

He was lying in bed in prison and he looked at the bunk above him and scratched into themetal frame of the bed said, “If you're bored, read Jeremiah 29:11.

” Boredom kinda goes withprison, so he read it.

Jeremiah 29:11 says, “I knowthe plans I have for you.

” Plans for a gay man who's HIV positive, who's just been sentenced tofederal prison for crimes.

“I know the plans I have for you.

“Plans for a future.

“Plans for good and not for evil.

” I want you to know thatthere was a cellmate who's HIV positivesitting on the bottom bunk who's now a professor at a seminary who wrote a book that's touching my soul.

I don't care where youare or what you've done, God can change your life.

– [Congregation] Amen.

– That's the power of Jesus.

(congregation applauds) “Instead, he beat onhis chest and he said, “'O God, be merciful tome, for I'm a sinner.

'” He said, “I tell you, thissinner, not the Pharisee, “returned home justified before God.

“For those who exaltthemselves will be humbled, “and those who humblethemselves will be exalted.

” I wanna change the way you relate to God.

Every single one of us, when we relate to God, we need to come to God with this in mind.

Write this down: I'm a sinner.

I'm a sinner.

Last week I preachedwith my wife on stage, which, husbands, that'salways a dangerous thing because you never knowwhat your wife's gonna say.

And so here's how it works, guys.

What you're gonna share, you've gotta get permissionfrom the wife to share.

Wives don't have to askpermission, they just share it.

(congregation laughs) So we're on stage and my wife just shares that we had sex before we got married.

Boom, my mom and dad are on the front row.

(congregation laughs) My kids go to church.

I'm like, “Hey, let's call grandma, “let's get them all here.

” (congregation laughs) It's embarrassing.

But it's true.

I'm a sinner.

I'm a sinner.

One of my friends came, brought his mom to church, and that's always dicey whenyou bring them to Sandals.

(congregation laughs) She told him she said, “Ithink the pastors shared “they had sex before they got married?” He's like, “Yeah, mom.

” She's like, “I don't thinkthey should share that “from stage.

” (congregation laughs) And you know why that is? Because we've made thechurch the one place on earth you can't tell the truth.

Ain't that sad? The church is the one placewhere you should tell the truth and nothing but thetruth so help you, God.

Amen? Why does the courthouseget to demand that? (congregation applauds) Why can't it be the church? I'm a sinner.

Underline this, “For everyone's sinned.

” That's you, that's Mother Teresa.

It's the person you're dating.

It's the person you're married to.

It's the boss you work for.

It's the person you'resitting next to in church.

“For everyone has sinned, “and we all fall short ofGod's glorious standard.

” You wanna know the truth? I can't even meet my ownstandards, much less God's.

The Enneagram is a personality assessment and it's one of the fewthings left in our culture that talks about sinoutside of the church.

Nine personality types that are beautiful.

You're created in the image of God.

God has blessed you withenormous talents, gifts, and you are marked by sin.

And it affects you invery, very different ways.

We all sin but we don'tall sin the same way, and so you know what we do? We make our sin less eviland everybody else's more.

So the nine personality styles is a way to understand yourself and understand the sinthat you struggle with, so we're gonna start off with the one.

'Cause the truth is you'rebetter than the rest of us.

It's just true.

Last service a woman shouted out, “Amen.

” (congregation laughs) “Amen.

“Preach it, pastor.

” The Reformers wanna makethe world a better place.

Some personality books on the Enneagram call you the perfectionist.

You've gotta get it right.

You know what the problem is? You can't.

You never can, no matter how hard you try.

You're never gonna be perfect.

And so the Reformer's core sin is anger.

And you're like, “That'srighteous anger, pastor.

” (congregation laughs) There's a guy in theBible whose name is James.

And in James chapter three, verse one, he says this.

“Human anger, ” and you can pray about whether or not you're human.

(congregation laughs) He says, “Human anger does not accomplish “the righteousness of God.

” You know what your anger is? It's like milk, you leaveit out, it goes rotten.

You know why I thinkJames writes about anger? Some of you don't know who James is.

James is the half-brother of Jesus.

Wouldn't that be lame? Can you imagine growing upwith him as your older brother? James, why can't you bemore like your brother? (congregation laughs) James, look at how Jesus makes the bed.

(congregation laughs) James, why don't you ask yourself, WWJD, what would Jesus do? Girls knock on the door, they're not there to see James.

They're there to see Jesus.

Can you imagine howhard that must've been, to have been James? To grow up with the Savior of the world? The Reformer's core sin is anger.

The two, the Helper.

Man, you mean well.

You wanna help.

You wanna make the world a better place.

Oftentimes you know the needs of others before they know it themselves.

But here's the problem: you'renot the savior, Jesus is.

And oftentimes you just trying to help actually makes it worse.

And here's your struggle, and let me say, if you're a two, I love you.

But you're the hardestperson's sin to identify because it's pride.

Here's the thing that's funny about pride.

Some of you are like, “Yeah, I don't struggle with pride.

” That's actually a prideful statement.

(congregation laughs) Pride is so hard to see.

That's why the devil struggles with pride.

His art is camouflage.

Ain't pride funny? Some of you, your pride willlead you straight to hell 'cause you don't think you're that bad and you don't think you need to be saved.

When I did that first Ironman, I only practiced swimming in the pool.

That was a mistake.

And so I did my first open water swim and that day a storm blew through Idaho, it was freezing cold.

They almost canceled the swim because the waves were so high.

But they met with the fire department and decided we're Ironmen, we can survive.

(congregation laughs) So they told us before therace, “If you're in distress, “all you have to do is raise your hand “and someone will come save you.

” But I'm not just an Ironman, I'm a man, which means I'm a fool.

And so I got about 200yards into this swim, five minutes into a 12-hour race, and I knew I was gonna die, I was done.

(congregation laughs) Butwould I raise my hand? No.

Admit that I need help? Never.

And so part of the rules of the Ironman is they have rescue boatsall over the places.

And by boats, they're really kayaks.

You swim to a kayak and here's the rule, the kayak can't drag you'cause that's cheating but you can hang on it, that's called living.

(congregation laughs) And so I swam over to the kayak, grabbed the boat, pulledmyself up, vomited on the boat, and I looked into the eyesof a 12-year-old girl scout who's serving volunteer hours (congregation laughs) and she has her life preservervest on and she says, “Do you need to be saved?” (congregation laughs) I kid you not, I'm not proud of this, I just let go of theboat and was like, “No.

” (congregation laughs) I would rather die thanbe saved by a girl scout! (congregation laughs) And that's how some of you are.

Jesus' like, “You wanna be saved?” You're like, “Nah, I'll go to hell.

” (congregation laughs) It's not that hot, I live in Riverside.

(congregation laughs) We have the three, theAchiever's core sin, it's lying.

You're so about success and what that means isyou're never about the truth.

Do you know why I was so botheredwith what my wife shared? It's not because she didn't tell me, it's because I care about what you think.

And here's the truth, sometimes I care more aboutwhat you think than God thinks 'cause I'm a three.

God already knows whatwe did and didn't do.

Why is it that I caremore about what you think than what God thinks? 'Cause I'm a three.

And let me tell you something, threes, here's what Jesus says.

Jesus says the truth comes out.

And let me just share this with you.

Judgment Day is an unfortunateday for that to come out.

Every day before Judgment Day, good day for the truth to come out.

Judgment Day, bad day! It's a bad day.

Jesus says the secrets thatyou forgot will come out.

Some of you are like, “Oh!” It's coming out.

The Achiever's core sin is lying.

The Bible says God hates lying.

Why does God hate lying? How many of you ever beenlied to, ain't that fun? It sucks, it's terrible.

Then we get the Individualist.

You're creative.

And just by definition, if you're a four, there are less fours inAmerica than any other number.

You are by definition the most unique and here's what's tragic about your sin.

Your sin is envy.

You're so focused on whatothers have that you don't, you fail to see what God has given you.

You know why envy's dangerous? Envy can make you do crazy things.

It's why I think people areso quick to tear people down on social media, because we'reenvious of their success.

We're jealous of their position.

Man, you know how many emails and texts I got this week about Kanye West? (congregation laughs) “What do you think, what do you think?” And the truth is a lot of people are just jealous of his success and they wanna tear him down.

But I want you to hear me.

It was envy that made people kill Jesus.

It's right there in the text.

In the Book of Mark itsays they were envious because of the crowds that followed Jesus and they said, “We've gotta kill him.

” How sad is that? Next we have the five, the Observer.

Look, God made you brilliant.

You're a genius.

You just understand the world in a different way from the rest of us.

But your core sin is greed.

Let me just share this.

What good is informationif you don't share it? You see, we think ofgreed as wanting more.

The actual sin of greed iswanting to keep what you have.

And so what the five doesis you withhold emotion, you withhold thoughts, you withhold affection.

You are not generous.

And Jesus says, “It is betterto give than to receive.

” And you're like, “Nah, well, I don't agree.

” And so you constantly live for yourself.

And listen to me, fives.

One day God's gonna hold you accountable for the brain he gave you, and if you only used it for yourself, he'll hold you accountable.

Then we have the sixth, the Loyalist.

Your core sin is fear.

Everybody always wants to be a six.

I just struggle with fear.

Because we feel like fearis the best of the sins.

Nobody wants to be angry, nobody wants to admit envy, nobody wants to be greedy.

And we haven't even gotten to lust.

You're like, “I just, I struggle with fear.

” Well, you know, Jesus tells a story about three individualsthat are given gifts.

One is given five talents, one is given two talents, and one is given one talent.

The one with five doubles the investment.

The one with two doubles the investment.

And the one with one buriedhis gift in the field.

And Jesus says, “Why did you do that?” You know what he says? “Because I was afraid.

” And Jesus takes what he has and gives it to the one with five and he takes the servant whodid nothing with their gift because they were afraid and he throws them intothe outer darkness, a place of weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Fear is not a reason to not serve God.

Jesus says this.

“Only be afraid of the one who can kill “the soul and the body, and his name is God.

” That's it.

That's it.

Fear'll make you do crazy things.

Lash out and hurt people.

Next we have the Enthusiast, right.

Whoo, yes, yes! Drank some coffee before you came in.

I love you, sevens.

But you know why bear comes in a six-pack and donuts come with 12.

Why stop at one? You wanna get everything out of life that life has to offer, here's the problem.

If you want to save your life, you must lose it, sevens.

You see, the way you say yes to Jesus is you say no to yourself.

And the world says, sevens, God would never give you a desire if he didn't want you to act on it, and that's because those people have never read the scriptures.

To be a Christian is towrestle against your desires, and to say yes to God oftentimes means saying no to yourself.

We've got the Challenger.

God made you strong, you're powerful, and your core sin is lust.

You're like, “Great, “I'm never going tocommunity group again.

” It doesn't mean sexual lust.

All of the types can struggle with sex, they just struggle withit for different reasons.

The eights struggle with lust.

Lust is a desire forthings that are not yours.

Eights struggle and want more power, more control, more position, more freedom.

You focus on gainingthings that are not yours rather than being accountable for what God's already given you.

And then we have the nine, the Peacemaker.

You're like, “How could a peacemaker sin?” Your core sin is laziness.

Do you know all evil needs to win is for good people to do nothing? You know, when Jesus Christ was tried and Pontius Pilate said, “Do you want me to killBarabbas or Jesus?” The crowd shouted, “Give us Barabbas, ” and the nines said nothing.

You see, there are twotypes of sin, nines.

There's the sin of commission, that means you committed it.

And there's the sin on omission, it means you knew what wasright and you ran from it.

And God will hold youaccountable for both.

Here's the thing you need to know.

Some of us, we just struggle with sin.

And by the way, ifsomebody doesn't believe they're a sinner, thenthey're calling God a liar.

1 John 1:10 says this, “Ifwe claim we have not sinned, “we are calling God a liarand showing that his word “has no place in our hearts.

” The world doesn't think sin is serious.

God thinks it's veryserious and here's why, write this down.

My sin separates me from God.

It separates me from God.

In the Bible, death doesn't mean the end, death means separation.

So when your loved one, yourhusband, your wife dies, they are separated from you.

In the Book of Revelation, there's a thing called the second death.

It's the second separation.

It's where sinners who havenot given their lives to Jesus are eternally separated from God forever.

Here's the thing.

You're gonna live forever somewhere.

With God, or apart from God.

And if you're a Christian, here's the good news.

Life right now is at the closest to hell you're ever gonna get.

If you're not a Christian, listen to me.

This is as close to heavenas you're ever gonna get.

And you need to make a decision today.

Romans 5:12 says this.

“You know the storythat Adam landed us in, “the dilemma we're in.

“First sin, then death, “and no one is exemptfrom either sin or death.

” Underline this.

“That sin disturbed relationships with God “in everything and everyone.

” Why is there disease? Why are little kids born with diseases? Sin.

Why is there divorce? Sin.

Why are people molested? Sin.

Why is there cancer? Sin.

Why are there typhoons? Sin.

That's what the Bible says.

Sin entered the world, itaffected all of us and everything.

And people today tend toblame one of two things.

They blame the devil, itwasn't me, or they blame God.

We should blame sin.

And I've prayed with so many people who've lost a loved one to cancer and they end up hating God and not sin.

God didn't kill your loved one.

Sin did.

That's what sin does.

It kills, it destroys.

The Bible says we have these desires, and when they give birth, they lead us into temptation, and temptation leads to action, and that action causes sin, and sin always brings death, regardless of what the world says.

Psalms 51, and I wanna encourage you read the whole psalm thisweek, I've edited it.

It's one of the mostpowerful psalms in the Bible.

And it's David who's justreally, really wrestling with who he is.

David's a king, he'sthe most powerful man.

David is described as a man who loves God with all of his heart.

And yet David comes to thevery reality of who he is.

He says, “I was born a sinner.

” Some of you, you hold your little infant, and you're like, “No way.

“There's no way this little, beautiful, perfect baby “could ever do anythingthat would hurt me.

” Give them time.

Man, you wait 'til that little perfect, innocent, cooing, cuddlingbaby is two years old and is demanding the deathof everyone in your family because they have not had enough crackers.

“I was born a sinner.

“Yes, from the momentmy mother conceived me.

” He says, “Create in mea clean heart, O God, “and renew a loyal spirit within me.

” I want you to circle that word, loyal.

Here's what sin is, ultimately.

It is rebellion against God.

And some of the smartest peopleon earth that are scientists are nothing more than rebels.

Rebelling against the God who made you.

Rebelling against the Godwho sent his Son to save you.

He says, “Create in me a loyal heart.

” You know why God says that? 'Cause we're not loyal.

We're not.

Every single day, even as a Christian, when you wake up it's a struggle to say no to yourself soyou can say yes to Jesus.

He says, “Create in mea clean heart, O God, “and renew a loyal spirit within me.

” He says, “Don't banishme from your presence.

” That's hell.

That's hell.

You say, if God is soloving and God is so good, why is there evil in the world? Listen to me, God createdyou as a free moral being.

Even Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, there had to be an eviltree, do you know why? So they could choose.

And listen to me, just likeAdam and Eve had to choose, so do you.

So do you.

You have to choose.

You have to decide.

This is your soul, this is your life.

And I know everybody says, “Everybody's going to heaven “and all religions are the same, “all roads lead to the same place.

” And Jesus says, “No, they don't.

” Write this down.

Only Jesus Christ canmake me right with God.

1 Timothy 2:5, “For there is one God.

” How many gods? “There's only one God.

“And one mediator who canreconcile God and humanity, “and that's the man Jesus Christ.

” Do you know why Jesus is perfect for you? Because Jesus was fully man and fully God and he represents both perfectly.

Hebrews 9:14 says, “Christoffered himself to God “as a perfect sacrificeto take away our sins.

” Here's what the Bible says, listen to me.

“The wages of sin is death.

” So many of you are thinking, “I'm gonna stand before God, “and God's gonna weighall the good things I did “and he's gonna weigh all the bad, “and I'm hoping that thegood outweighs the bad.

” Here's what the Bible says, here's what you'veearned apart from Christ.

“The wages of sin is death.

” Eternal separation from the Holy God.

And here's the thing aboutJesus that's so amazing.

I was watching “Good MorningAmerica” this weekend, they were celebrating one ofour World War II veterans, and there's so few of them that are left.

He received multiple Medals of Honor because multiple times in the battlefield he threw himself on a grenadeto save his fellow soldiers.

And he's been interviewedmultiple times and he was asked, “Why did you throwyourself on the grenade?” And here's what he said.

“To save my buddies.

” That's pretty incredible.

But do you know Jesus didn'tthrow himself on a grenade to save his buddies? Here's what the Bible said.

Jesus died to save his enemies.

You're a rebel.

You're an enemy of God.

And Jesus died not to save his friends but he died so you could be his friend.

And it's very different.

Christ offered himself as aperfect sacrifice for our sins.

But here's the thing.

Luke 5:32, Jesus said, “I've come not to call thosewho think they're righteous.

” If you think you're good, listen to me, there's no hope for you.

There's no hope for you.

He said, “I've not come to call those “who think they are righteous.

” He said, “I've come to call those “who know they're sinnersand need to repent.

” Don't be like me.

You know you're drowning.

I would rather drown thanraise my hand to be saved.

Just raise your hand.

Just raise your hand.

Here's what Jesus wantsyou to do to be saved.

To be saved, you've gotta do two things.

Number one: I've gotta repent for my sin.

You guys, sin is serious business.

It's serious business, it's not a joke.

To repent is two actions.

To repent is to turn away from my sin and to turn to God.

It's saying I'm no longergonna live for myself I'm gonna live for God.

Jesus says it this way.

“If any man or woman would come after me, “let them first deny themselves, “pick up their cross, and follow me.

” That's what it means to repent.

About 26 years ago I was sitting right where you are sitting, living in a life of sin, and I knew I needed to be saved and I knew I needed a change in my life.

Listen to me, God won't make you change.

But if you raise yourhand, he'll help you.

He'll save you.

If your hand goes up, God's hand comes down.

Here's what the Bible says.

“Whoever calls upon the nameof the Lord shall be saved.

” That's what it means.

I've gotta repent of my sin and I've gotta believe in Jesus Christ.

You know why I've gotta believe in Jesus? Because when I standbefore God on Judgment Day, listen to me, my repentance is not enough.

It's not enough.

It's not enough to be sorry.

It's not enough to try to be righteous.

The only way I survive the Day of Judgment is because Jesus standswith me on Judgment Day.

And you know what he's gonna say? He's gonna say, “Father, Matt'srighteousness is not enough.

“Matt's effort is not enough.

” But he says, “Dad, “mine is.

“And I died so Mattdoesn't have to forever.

” You have two choices on Judgment Day: to stand on your ownor to stand with Jesus.

I strongly suggest, I beg you, I plead with you to choose Jesus.

To choose Jesus.

A couple of years ago, some friends of mine asked me to go out to lunch with theirrelative and he was scary.

He rode motorcycles, wore leather chaps.

I shop at Nordstrom Rack.

(congregation laughs) I have no tattoos.

He was covered in tattoos andhe had a teardrop on his eye.

And he said this, we were at Starbucks.

I don't think he'd everbeen to a Starbucks before.

He said, “Do you think I'm a sinner?” I wanted to say, “No.

” (congregation laughs) I said yes.

He said, “You think God would save me?” I said, “Absolutely.

” Listen to me, I led him toChrist that day in a Starbucks.

Don't clap, because he waskilled on his motorcycle six months later.

He's the toughest dude I've ever seen.

He barely fit in his casket.

I don't think he fit, I thinkthey shoved him in that thing.

Even the strongest men die.

I don't know how much time you have.

This may the last time Godgives you to get it right.

Make a choice today.

Choose Christ.

So I'm gonna ask you to do two things.

Number one.

If you wanna repent of your sin and you wanna believe inJesus Christ in just a second, all I'm gonna ask you todo is raise your hand.

And then at the end of service, here's what I want you to do.

And I want you to come forward and I want you to signup for baptism next week.

And here's why.

Jesus said, “If you deny me before men, “I will deny you before my father.

” He wants you in frontof your friends, family, people that you work with, he wants you to invite them to church and he wants you to show themyou've repented of your sin and you've placed your faithand trust in Jesus Christ.

Baptism is like a marriage ceremony.

Don't miss next week, it is phenomenal.

Just like marriage doesn'tmake you love someone, baptism doesn't save you.

It simply declares that you love them.

In just a second I'm gonna askthe worship team to come out.

But I just wanna know.

No heads bowed, no eyes closed.

If you need to be saved, if youneed to repent of your sins, would you just raise your hand? Let's start over here, is there anybody here? Look, right here.

Anybody, clap for him, guys, come on.

(congregation applauds)Anybody, anybody? Over here? How about right here in the middle? Anybody, raise your hands.

Right here, right here.

In the back, I see your hands up there.

How about over here, anybody? Come on guys, cheer.

The Bible says, “Heaven is going nuts.

” Right here, right here, right over there.

Anybody back up over there? I see you guys.

Listen to me, I see you, guys.

(congregation applauds) Listen to me, man.

Heaven is going nuts right now.

Heaven is going nuts right now because Jesus died so you could live.

Jesus died so you could live.

And your life changes now.

I'm gonna pray for you right now.

So you raised your hand, the next step is to pray, and then I want you to comeforward at the end of service so we can get down your information and we can get you in a small group and we can get you baptized next week.

It's repent, believe, and be baptized.

That's the formula thatthe Book of Acts gives us.

Let's just pray, amen, church? Heavenly Father, we thank you for every person who raised their hand.

God, you know their hand, you know their life, you know their story.

And God, you sent their Sonto die for them on the cross.

Lord, I pray that theirrepentance is real, I pray that their faith is real.

And right now I ask thatfor Holy Spirit, Lord, would just come into their lives and change them and seal them.

Lord, empower them andgift them to follow you and trust you for the rest of their life.

I pray this in Jesus' name, amen.

God bless you, guys, I love ya.

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(upbeat music) (upbeat music) (upbeat music) (upbeat music) (upbeat music) (upbeat music) – Good morning Sandals Church.

(applause) I am here today to talk aboutimproving your love life.

I found this gorgeousblonde in the parking lot and I said “Hey, why don'tyou join me on stage?” This is my wife of 23 years, Tammy Brown.

Let's give her a hand.

(applause) – Good morning.

– Super excited you guys are here today.

Some of you don't know thisbut this is the one year anniversary of Momentum.

How many of you guys remember Momentum? Some of you are like 'Yeah, I'm broke, I need some financial momentum'.

Look, a year ago we set out as a church, I kid you not, to raiseten extra million dollars.

Like some of you aretrying to raise, like, ten extra dollars, we triedto win million extra dollars and we're at the halfwaypoint in our fundraising and right now we've raised$5.

1 million in cash, so give yourself a hand.

(applause) And we are super excited.

Through this series we'reaveraging over 11, 000 people at 10 campuses that are joiningus at Sandals Church.

Here's the exciting thing.

Our fastest growing campusis our online campus, and they're almost as bigas all 10 campuses combined, so thank you so much for your generosity.

And if you're joining us online, and you're just like 'Wow, they just look so good today', it's because we upgraded our cameras and that's a part of our Momentum givings, so that's for you.

But join us, and we appreciate that.

And you guys, its sucha blessing, literally, to watch the online serviceand people saying things like 'Joining you from El Salvador today', 'Joining you from Iraq today', 'Joining you from Australia today'.

And all over the worldpeople are joining us to be a part of what Godis doing in Sandals Church.

Isn't that incredible? It's absolutely incredible.

All right, now let's talkabout your love life.

How many of you guys needyour love life to improve, raise your hands.

Okay, don't point at your spouse.

Don't be like 'This is why Ibrought you to church today'.

Some of you are like, you're single and you're like 'Oh my goshI don't wanna be here today, how do I get out of here'.

Listen, we're gonna startwith you because I love you.

I love you, God loves you.

I want you to know thatthere's nothing wrong with being single.

This is where– One person, woo! Yeah.

This is where God has you.

I want you to write this down.

Whether you're single or married, here's how we need to enter into romance.

I need to trust God where I am.

Okay? If you want God to blessyou somewhere else, you need to allow him tobless you where you are.

Here's what the Apostle Paul says, he says “I wish everyonewere single, just as I am.

” You know why singles? You know what you're gonna do today? Whatever you want.

You know what I'm gonna do today? Whatever she wants, that'swhat I'm gonna do, okay? Look, when you're single, you have a unique opportunity to follow God and serve God, and if you're constantlythinking ahead to marriage, you may miss out on opportunitiesto do something great.

Paul says “Yet each personhas a special gift from God, of one kind or another.

So I say to those who aren't married”, and my heart goes out toyou if you've lost a spouse “And to widows”, that's you.

He says “It's betterto remaining unmarried, just as I am.

” The guy who wrote half the Christian Bible was never married.

Think about that.

Never married.

He says “It's better to stayunmarried, just as I am”, but if you can't control yourself, if you're like 'Pastor that's me', okay? He says, “They should go ahead and marry.

It's better to marry thanto burn up with lust.

” At the end of the service today, if you're single and you'rejust like 'Pastor I'm burning', okay, come forward for prayer.

Check your eyes, don'tbe like 'I need prayer' because they'll back up.

But you know, just say'Hey man, I'm struggling.

' Singles, I think this isthe hardest time in history to be single, and there'sa lot of expectations on you and it's just real difficult, and I want you to knowSandals is a safe place.

We love you, we care for you, and we want you to takeadvantage of this time and Tammy has somewisdom she wants to drop just on this issue of being single.

– Well hindsight is always 20/20 and I look back at mysingle years and think what an opportunity I missed, and because I missed it, it really damaged Matt and I'smarriage in those early years because I didn't take thattime to know who I was, what I liked.

I didn't enjoy my life.

I was so focused onpursuing getting married that I just missed such aspecial time in my life.

So those of you who are in that season, I encourage you don't putyour life on pause or hold thinking that once youget married it'll start, or that'll fix, or you'll find yourself.

Use this time that you'rein now to learn who you are, to become the best version of who you are, to purse the things youwanna purse, your interests, your hobbies, your education.

Don't waste this time, because it's such a special, precious time in yourlife, and I missed it.

And like I said, the firstfive years of Matt and I's marriage was me wanting togo back and have that time that I missed, and that wasreally detrimental to us.

– Absolutely.

Okay, next write this down.

I want you to acceptthat dating and marriage should be a challenge.

It should be.

Look, if you're single, getting married is the second most important decision you will ever make apart from choosing to followChrist or reject Christ.

It's a big deal, and itshould be challenging.

And some of you guys arelike 'Oh, its so hard, this isn't right'.

Look, it should be challenging.

And some of you are married, you're like 'It's challenging, I thought being single was challenging, marriage is challenging'.

Listen, it should be a challenge, and you should be up for the challenge, and I think one of the thingsTammy and I naively believed is that getting married wouldsolve all of our issues, and what it did is it reallyexposed a lot of them.

I had know idea, I wake up, I'm like 'Wow, you're still here'.

She's like 'Yeah, you'restill here, okay.

' Well, let's figure that out.

Proverbs 31 is not aboutbeing a Godly woman, it's about finding a Godly spouse.

That's what Proverbs 31is about, and he says “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She's more precious than rubies and her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

” Singles.

If they don't improve you're life, why are you marrying them? If they don't make you better, why are you in a relationship with them? And some of you are hoping he'll change.

There's no such thing as missional dating, just relational compromise.

And you need to understand that.

Often times women date potential, and potential's a cuss wordwhen it comes to relationships.

You need to marry anddate the person they are, not the one you hope they'll be.

And just look at that.

And let me just say thisto some of you guys.

Often times women see some things in us we don't see in ourselves.

Positive and negatively.

And early on a lot ofwhat Tammy was saying I wrote off as crazy, wrong, ridiculous, or overly emotional.

And what she was sayingwas some things in my life that I needed to hear.

And I needed to hear it from her.

And I just would encourageyou, listen to your spouse.

This is the most importantperson in your life, and if they're challengingyou, be up for the challenge.

Don't run from the challengeand run off to some other person that continuesthe lie, because often that's what divorce is.

We just save our issuesfor the next relationship because we didn't deal withthem in this relationship.

Okay, next one.

When dating, now if you're not a Christian or you're new to church, this is going to be radically different from anything you've ever heard.

And that's okay.

You're in a Christian Church, and our job is to teach youGod's will for your life.

So God has some verydifferent things to say about dating from what theworld has to say about dating.

So if this feels not normal, or not what you're used to, welcome to God, okay? Write this down.

When dating, reserve sex for marriage.

It's not that God doesn'twant you to have sex.

It's that God wants you tohave sex in a safe place where you're loved andsomeone is committed to you.

And if you rush that, you canreally screw some things up.

And Tammy and I, you know, our vision is to be real.

We messed this up before we got married, and it really, really effected us.

Why don't you just share, just from you're perspective of why you wish we wouldhave got that right.

– Well because it just clouded everything about our relationship.

There's probably some reasons Matt and I shouldn't have gotten married, but we pursed it because we thought 'Oh my gosh, we've messed up in this way, so now we have to make itright by getting married', and I tell people, I tellour kids, I tell young people that are like 'Well you guys made it'.

We are the exception tothe rule, not the rule, and because we messed up in this area it made everything aboutthe first decade really of our marriage very veryinsecure for me especially.

Well we're just married because.

Would you have married me if? We both had so much messbecause of it that just came into our marriage and really poisoned what should have been sucha special time for us, and so with our ownchildren we try to tell them it's not about being goodor bad, or right or wrong, even though God speaks very clearly.

It's about God's best for you, and there's a reason and trusting that.

We didn't trust that.

We thought we knew better orwe thought it didn't matter, because that's really thelie the world tells you.

It's not that big a deal.

Ten years later into mymarriage I was still reminded what a big deal that small choice was.

– Yeah, and here's the thingyou don't know, singles.

The sexual controlthat's required in dating is the same sexual controlyou need in marriage.

– [Tammy] This is so key.

– So a lot of you think, 'Well once I get marriedI'm not gonna have any lust.

I'm not gonna have any urges.

I'm not gonna have any desires.

', look, you need to startpracticing self control in the area of sex whenyou're dating because if you can't control yourself when you're all into the person, how areyou gonna control yourself when you're not all in to the person? Here's what the bible says.

“Let marriage be held in honor among all.

” That's all of us.

Married and singles.

Singles, don't datesomebody that's married.

They are off limits becauseGod says they're off limits.

“Let marriage be held in honor among all and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexuallyimmoral and the adulterous.

” Listen to me, there'sgonna be a lot of people that are surprised that Godactually cares about sin.

We live in a world that saysGod doesn't care about sin, He's grandpa up in Heaven and he just wants you to have a good time.

Some of you are gonna be like 'Woah' as you just get smoked out right? I wanna prepare you.

God cares deeply aboutwhat you do with your body, and if you're a Christian, your body's been purchased by Jesus.

You are no longer your own.

You are Jesus Christ's possession, and He loves you, and He's created you for sex within the context of marriage.

And some of you are dating like 'Well what we we gonna do then? What are we gonna do when we're dating?' Well let me give you acouple of things, okay? How about this? How about you evaluate theemotional health of each other.

You see, what sex does ladies, is it drops your IQ in half.

You're like 'Oh my goshhe's the most sensitive, loving, caring, compassionate person ever.

' No, you're just sleeping with him.

Ladies, how many ofyou can afford to loose half your IQ points? Okay, now don't laugh guys, because when you start havingsex you have no IQ points.

You're just like 'I like her a lot.

She's the one for me.

' In a day and age where emotionalhealth is such a crisis, now I'm not saying theyneed to be perfect, but you need to evaluate, because in marriage you're gonna deal with discouragement.

You may go through seasons of depression.

You may have to deal withall kinds of disappointment.

How do they handle that? Number two, you know Goddoesn't care what ethnicity the person is that you date.

He does care about their spirituality.

Write this down, look fora spiritual compatibility.

Do they love Jesus? You say 'Well, they'reon Christian Mingle.

' Okay, that doesn't meanthey're a Christian, it means they wanna what? They wanna mingle with you.

Okay? So don't be fooled by thetattoo of the cross on the arm, the cross around theneck, the Sandals T-shirt.

Look at their life.

Look at their life, dothey really love Jesus? Next, observe integrity and loyalty.

If they lie to their parents, if they lie to their job, if they lie to theirfriends, what does that mean they're gonna do to you? They're gonna lie to you, and a lot of you ladies, I hear this all the time.

'Well, his family just doesn'tunderstand him the way I do.

' You're the only one thatdoesn't understand him.

Okay? Let me tell you something, we live with our kids 24/7.

We understand them.

And so you just need tolook at that, evaluate that.

And then, this is huge, especially if you're a woman.

I love you, sex has farmore consequences for you because you carry the child, and then you're forced into all kinds of situations to carefor this child on your own.

Write this down.

Watch how they work.

Economic agility in our dayand age is more important than ever.

So let's say he doesn'tget to do his dream job.

He wants to be a rockstar, a baseball player, a fireman, whatever he wanted to be when he was six years old.

Right? Lets say that doesn't happen.

Is he willing to work at Walmart? And let me tell you something, I'm willing to work whereverI have to work because my job is not the dream, she is the dream.

She's the dream, and Igotta do whatever it takes.

And listen to me, especially you guys.

When we first got married Iworked a full time job Monday through Friday.

I went to school formy Masters on Tuesdays, Thursdays nights andSaturdays, and then on Sundays we did church.

I had to prove to her thatI was willing to work.

And some of you are like'Well I want what you have'.

Well then you need to work like I did.

That's what you need to do.

You need to watch how theywork, and this is key, ladies you don't wanna be raising children and be married to a child.

You don't want that, okay? All right, next.

So, when you're dating, don't have sex.

When you're married, guys you're gonna go home and quote this bibleverse to your wife today.

Gonna be like “You know, the Pastor spoke and I felt the Lord wasmoving and I just really feel like we need to listen to our Pastor'.

Okay.

When married, work at creatingtime for sexual intimacy.

If you're dating you're like 'Oh my gosh.

What?' Yes, life happens, you're tired.

You're like 'I can't imagineI ever wouldn't have time to make love.

' Pop out a couple of kids, have some disappointment, let life roll you up a couple times and then a nap sounds alittle bit better, right? And as you age this changes.

My grandpa used to say this, he said “What we usedto do all night it takes all night to do.

” It's like thank you Grandpa, for that mental image.

So life changes, and yougotta change with life.

So here's what the bible says.

“Do not deprive each otherof sexual relations”, you might wanna underlinethat passage right there, okay, “unless you both agreeto refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so youcan give yourselves more completely to prayer.

” And let me say this.

If you have a sexproblem in your marriage, you have a spiritual andan emotional problem.

So don't go home and tell your spouse “The Pastor said we have to do it.

” Go home and say “What's going on with us? Why aren't we connecting? What am I doing? What's happening in our lifethat we've become roommates?”, or cell mates, or whateverit is you feel like you are, right? And have that conversation.

But here's the thingyou need to understand.

Listen to what God says.

After you pray, after you connect, after you talk spirituallyand emotionally, “Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

” We live in a world wherepeople don't honor marriage.

And ladies, a lot of women don't care that your husband's married.

That actually makes him more attractive.

And you need to understand that Satan is gonna try to pull him away.

And guys, the same goes for you.

You need to be pursuing your wife.

You need to make sure that youcontinue to date your wife, because you need to know thatSatan wants to tear you apart.

Look, God created marriage and Satan wants to destroy marriage, and so we have to come together.

And so we're in this seriescalled Relational Remix, where we're using the Enneagramto change the way we relate.

Some of you are like 'Well, I don't really need the Enneagram.

Both Tammy and I agree on this.

As we were preparing for today's message, I just came to Tammy and I said “Babe, I just really wish we wouldhave had this 20 years ago.

” And let me tell you why guys.

I love Tammy, but I didnot understand Tammy.

I missed Tammy in so many ways.

I misunderstood her, I judged her, I was critical of her, and vice versa.

She was the same way for me.

And the Enneagram givesyou a new lens to see someone that you've loved for a long time.

And it gives you a new sense of grace, and a new sense of connect.

And let me just tell you something.

God wants to bless your marriage today.

And if you're dating, startthinking about this now so that you don't screw upyour relationship like we did.

So let's start with the Enneagram.

We're gonna start with the ones because you're numberone today, the reformers.

Look, you're organized, you're detailed.

Last night we went out to dinner with a couple from our church.

I kid you not, she's a one.

We got to their house, she hada list of things her husband needed to do.

So number ones, create lists together.

Okay, if you're married to a one, they're gonna create alist with or without you.

Create lists together andmake sure the important stuff is done.

Look guys, if you wanna get done, you've gotta get the list done, okay? All right, go ahead Tammy.

Take it away.

– Okay, I wanna talk to allthe reformers in the room.

What's so good about youis that you see how to make things better, and you make a list ofhow to make that happen.

But here's the problem, sometimes what's most important to you on the list is notmost important to your spouse.

You guys need to rememberthat your partner probably has a list ofwhat's important to do also, and to achieve, and so makesure you're asking them, 'Hey what's on your list?' And make sure that there'sa list that's both of yours.

The other thing about reformers is you see how to make things better.

You struggle admitting when you don't get it perfect yourself.

You have that internal'I need to be perfect, I need to be good'.

I wanna encourage youas a mean for intimacy with your spouse, to apologize.

To practice apologizing.

It can be really hardto be married to someone where you're always theproblem because they always get it right.

Let your spouse love you andremind you that even flawed, you're worth loving.

Now if you're married toa reformer, listen to me.

What I want you to do is ask them what's most important toaccomplish on the list.

I have a lot of one in me, a lot of reformer in me.

I cannot relax, chill out, be present with Matt when I have a list of all these things to do.

So when he says to me 'Hey, what do you need to get done on the list?', he willask me and help achieve some of those things and getthem off the list that way I can be more present with him.

So ask your spouse “What's on your list and how can I help you achieve that?” – Yeah, because if I'mnumber seven on the list, we wanna move me up, so we gotta knock off allthose things in the front.

– [Tammy] That's a really good strategy.

– Yes, all right.

Okay, I'm a three man, I'm gonna be successful.

Okay, two's.

Two's I love you.

If you're married to a two, join them in serving others.

That's how they feel fulfilled.

They love being needed, so join with them in that process and findways to serve their needs.

So two's love meeting the needs of others, but often times they don'tknow their own needs.

Tammy, how can we loveour twos in a better way? – Well if you're a two, if you're a helper, here's a couple things to remember, is that you are so good atseeing everybody else's need.

Sometimes too good, whereyou assume a need that maybe isn't there.

So I wanna encourage you, with your spouse to ask them their needs instead of assume them, or assume they're the same as yours, and to also make surethat you're not parenting or controlling yourspouse with your “help”.

That can be where you getsideways and disconnect from them.

Your spouse doesn'twanna be parented by you, they wanna be partnered with you.

Now if you're married to a two, here's what I want you to do.

I want you to ask them their needs.

Most of the time, helpers, the two's are so in tune with everybody else's needsthat they forget to remember that they have needs too.

So your job is going to be tohelp meet your spouses needs as they're rememberingto meet everybody else's.

That is such a great wayto connect with them.

– All right, three's.

I'm a three.

Okay, suffer with me.

Celebrate their dreamsregardless how crazy or stupid they seem to you, and encourage them to get real.

So three's are so future focused, often times we miss therelationships that matter most.

You've had to love a three for 23 years, so talk to us about thisdifficult challenge.

– Well three's, you're the achievers.

You're always looking ahead.

Where you wanna go, whereyou wanna be in a year, five years, what you wannaachieve, your dreams.

What you need to becareful of is to make sure that you're not draggingyour spouse and your family along to your dreams.

There was a season inMatt's life where I said.

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Remember back in the day theywould do 'Just Married' cars and tie the cans on theback down the street? I felt like the kids and I were the cans on the back of Matt's car.

It was his world, and wegot to be a part of it.

Three's remember, checkin with your spouse and ask them what their dreams are, what their goals are, andwhat their ambitions are and join them in that, andmake sure you're planning and dreaming together about things.

If you're married to a threemy biggest encouragement to you to connect with them is tobe their biggest cheerleader.

There was a time where Ifelt like Matt gets accolade everywhere he goes and I'm like 'Oh yeah? Well let me tell you.

' You know? And so I thought itwas my job to bring him down a little bit, and I realizedthat he can be criticized everywhere he goes and youguys, he is, on the daily.

But when it comes form me, the weight that it holds completely deflate him.

I'm his cheerleader.

I try to point out allthe good things he does.

I also do this, and ifyou're married to a three this is so important.

Three's have such a needto appear successful that they'll minimize anyareas of failure or feelings that they have that aren't good.

Check in with them about howthey're actually feeling, actually doing, and remindthem about what you love about their person, nottheir accomplishments.

That's so important to do for a three.

Otherwise they just think'Well I have to win it, achieve it, do it to be worth of love'.

As their spouse it's your job to say 'I love you, whether you winor loose because I love you.

' It's so important.

– Amen, Amen.

Okay, fours, individualists.

If you're married to a four, awesome.

They are called the romantic.

You have to embracetheir emotional passion and need for reflection.

So threes are future focused, fours are past focused.

Tammy, how can we love fours? – Individualists, you guysare the most emotions.

You're all in the feels.

You can feel for me, you can feel for you, you can feel for theroom, you get feelings and you feel them deeply, and the world needs that.

Otherwise we just forget where people are and we can't see them.

However you can be achallenge to be married to because sometimes its allabout you and how you feel.

To connect with yourspouse make it a practice to ask them how they're feeling and be able to sit inthat space without making it about you.

Don't let your emotions bethe only ones that matter.

Now if you're married to a four, if you're married to anindividualist here's what's super important.

Pursue, pursue, pursue.

You see, the four has a needto feel special and unique, and what internallythey're most aware of is what's missing in them.

They have a gifting to seethe uniqueness and beauty of everybody else, and feellike they don't have it.

Its your job to remindthem 'You're special and you're unique to me, and I see you' and constantly pursue themso they know they're special to you.

You're the thing reminding them that you're not going anywhere, you're anchored with them, even when their emotionsare all over the place, you're their anchor.

So pursue them and be anchored.

– So the four's all in the heart.

Fives, you're all in the head.

The fives the observer.

So if you wanna increasepassion with your loved one who's a five, do thingsthat expand the mind.

What does that mean? Stay in an old hotelwhere you can take a tour.

You're like 'Why would I do that?' Because you're married to a five, and that gets them excited.

They love information.

Tammy and I, we went outto dinner the other night at a restaurant where the chefis describing every single ingredient and the process, and I'm like 'I don't care, I just wanna eat it.

' And all of our friends thatare fives are taking notes.

They're like 'Oh, wow, that's incredible.

There's a hint of spearmint? Wow.

' And I'm just like.

So do things that expandthe mind and are excellent.

They love competency And Tammy, how can we love our fives? – Well if you are a fiveyou are the observer.

You probably know theinternal motto you have of more thinking, less talking.

Less words.

They take it all in, they don'thave to contribute verbally.

However, with your spouseif you're the observer, you need to work on makingit a practice to verbalize to them their value to you.

Don't leave them guessingall the time because you may be a five, but if they're not your words matter to them.

So make sure that you are speaking to them and using words for them.

The other thing you wanna do is ask them, you're okay more oftenthan not to not have to be the life of the party.

You don't even wanna go to the party.

Every five I know loves the shirt like 'Sorry I'm late I didn't wanna come', like that's your motto.

But your spouse wants a partner.

And so ask them what isthe most important thing for me to show up for, and then show up for them because they want toexperience life with you, not separate from you.

Now if you're married to the five, here's what you need to do.

You need to be thegatekeeper on your time.

Don't be dragging yourobserver spouse to something every night of the week, aparty every single weekend, doing all the things.

You're going to drain theiremotional relational reserve.

You need to be the gatekeeper on that and make sure that you'rehelping have some of that in the tank for them so thatthey can do that for you.

The other thing you needto do is you need to become an expert ontheir non-verbals because your observer five is goingto tell you they love you in every single waywithout actually saying it, so become an expert onwhat they're saying to you and how they're relatingto you non-verbally.

– All right.

The six.

I'm married to a six.

Scared of everything.

The loyalist.

Okay, how many of you guys have heard of post traumatic stressdisorder, raise your hand if you've heard of that.

Six's don't have posttraumatic stress disorder, they have pre traumatic stress disorder.

They freak out about iteven if it never happens.

So just know that.

So here's what you do ifyou want to have intimacy and connection with a six.

Protect the home, I can'temphasize that enough, and declare your love andloyalty for them daily.

They need to hear it.

They forgot about it yesterday.

Tammy, how can we love sixes? – Well first of all ifyou are a six like me, you're always focusedon what could go wrong.

That is a way to killconnection with your spouse, if you're always livingin what could go wrong so you don't engage with them.

They could hurt you, youcould fight about it, you're gonna miss outon that relationship.

So instead I want you topractice thinking about what could go rightand what is going right in the relationship.

The other thing I want youto do is I want you to not be skeptical of your spouse.

We're the most skeptical ofpeople of all nine styles.

You need to work at not beingskeptical of their motive with you or their love for you.

Now if you're married to a sixhere's the thing that's going to be most effective for youto connect with your spouse.

You need to ask them 'Whatare you afraid of right now, either relationally orliterally, physically.

' That's been one of the mosthealing things for Matt and I, is once he started going'Oh, she really is scared of these things' andto help in those ways.

He now goes around and locksall the doors at night, he just makes sure the house is secure because if I don't feelsecure, I can't relax, and not relaxed me is not the most fun.

So make sure– (laughs) – [Matt] We want lots of relaxing.

– Make sure that you'rehelping to protect them, literally, physically, and also reassuring them emotionally that you are safeand that your relationship is secure.

– All right, sevens.

Any sevens in the house? Woo hoo, yes! – [Tammy] Sevens cheer in every service.

They're the only one ofall the styles that cheer.

They're like 'Yes we're here!' – If you go 'Hey fives'it's like crickets.

Enthusiast.

Listen, the things that youloved about the seven in dating you need to remember in marriage.

Be spontaneous and fun.

Join them on an adventure.

It doesn't matter what it is, just go.

That's what they love, andso much of marriage is not adventure, it's like defense.

And so you gotta make surethat you're getting out there and having fun.

Tammy how can we love our sevens? – Sevens you guys, you're theenthusiast, the joyful person.

You see all the fun thingsyou can be a part of.

Here's what I want you topractice so that you're able to connect with your spouse.

Sometimes you're gonna need to say no to some of the fun things sothat you can say yes to being present with them.

You can exhaust yourself andyour spouse if you're just busy, busy, busy doingall the fun things that there's no time left toconnect with each other because you're connecting everywhere else.

The other thing is to makesure that you don't disengage from your spouse when it gets difficult.

To rethink how you think of difficult.

Pain is not always bad, sometimes it's just hard.

And so don't disengagewhen things get difficult, because that's real life.

Real life happens, andthat's the biggest way to create division instead of connection.

Now if you're married to the enthusiast, you need to work at beingfun, and you need to make sure that you're joining them on the adventure, being flexible if somethingcomes up, being able to say yes, and you're also gonnawanna do this as a way to love your enthusiast spouse, is you're gonna wanna minimizeand condense your criticisms.

Before you even enter into that, I want you to thinkthrough how you're feeling, whatever the painfulconversations gonna be and come up with the happy solution for them to work through.

That way they can engage that and then don't stay in it for a long time.

If you wanna create divisionand ruin that relationship with your enthusiast, just becoming at them all the time with everything wrong in the world.

Minimize, condense it, warn them, and then have somethingspecial planned for later, like 'And then after we'll take a walk or we'll do something else'.

Don't suck the joy out of their person.

That's how God made them and the best way to connect with them is to meet them in that.

– All right, eights.

And let me just saythis, I love you eights.

The world is ridiculously cruel to you.

God has made you strong, and guys, don't run away from strong women.

I have a friend of minewho married an eight, listen to me, on their honeymoon she ripped her dress off and said “Lets do this thing”.

I was like “That's an eight.

That's an eight man.

Way to go buddy, high five.

Just hang on and hopeshe doesn't kill you.

” Right? So the challenger, ifyou're married to an eight, verbally compliment their raw strength.

They have to apologize fortheir strength everywhere in life.

They shouldn't have to do that at home.

Just say thank you somuch for being strong, and compliment their raw strength and their desire to protect.

Tammy, how can we love our eights? – Well, we're gonna start with the eights.

Here's the thing I wantyou to remember about you is that you have an intensity, a drive, a level of bluntness and clarity and you get things done, but you need to remember thatnot everyone else in the world has that same intensity.

So I wanna challenge you to find gears.

Okay, you don't have tocome on strong all the time, especially to your spouse.

That's a way to over exhaustthem and overwhelm them.

So work on having gears.

And also this, what's soimportant is you're the get it done person.

You're the protectors of everyone.

You can handle your business.

Sometimes a spouse with youcan feel like a non-essential.

Like, unnecessary, becauseyou can handle yourself.

You don't even need me, you take care of yourself.

So I want you, if you are a challenger, to verbalize to yourspouse how you need them and how their an essentialpart of who you are.

Now if you're married to achallenger, hear me say this.

They are strong for everyone, everywhere, protecting everyone.

I want you to work on beinga strong place for them.

A place where they can bevulnerable and it's safe, and you can be a strongplace for them at home, whatever that looks likebetween the two of you so that they can catch their breath, because they're out there all the time doing that.

And the other thing is towork on making sure that you're strong, and youshow up for them the way that they show up for everybody else.

– All right, last style.

The peacemaker.

Look, if you're married to a peacemaker the world is aggressive, the world is invasive, and the world attacks all day every day, and so you have to workhard at home to create time and space for rest, relaxation, and connection.

It's so important thatyou create these spaces for the person that you love who's a nine.

They've been at battle all day long, with the kids all day long, and they need some space for this.

Tammy, how can we love our nines? – So nines, you're thepeacemaker which is so essential and so great.

You see multiple sides, you value multiple views, but here's the thing thatcan be challenging about you.

Part of what's so goodabout you is the go along to get along attitude thatyou bring to the world.

'No, we can eat where you want'and you really don't care.

But your spouse marriedyou because they actually want a partner, not a tag along.

So you need to show up and bedeclarative in your marriage.

Let your spouse know where you wanna eat, what you're interested in doing, because when you never do thatyou build future resentments deep down that your interestsare never being known.

Well if you're not making them known, it's not fair to holdyour spouse responsible.

So be declarative aboutwho you are to your spouse.

Be a partner, don't be ago along just with them.

They want to know you, theycare about how you feel and what interests you.

Now, if you're married to a peacemaker, here's what I wanna say to you.

You need to become an expertlearner on your spouse.

Remembering that it ishard for them to say where they wanna eat, where they like to go, what they care about, howthey feel on a certain topic, because they don't wanna rock the boat, they don't wanna create tension.

So when they do speak up, learn them and remember and make sure that whatyou're learning about them, you're weaving into your everyday lives, so they don't have tosay 'I wanna eat here' or 'I like to do this' or'I don't like to do that'.

You've remembered it andyou're making sure that you're honoring that andwho they are as you're going through your life makingyour plans, your vacations, your trips, your relationships.

Remember that.

– All right.

So, here's what I wanna challenge you.

Some of you guys are like 'Ohmy gosh, I feel overwhelmed.

' So were Tammy and I.

Totally overwhelmed, totallyunequipped to have conversation and have intimacy together.

Here's what I wanna encourageyou to do as a couple.

Create safe spaces for honestconversation and feedback.

And that's really, really difficult to do, and Tammy's gonna talk to usbecause we have a whole section on this, and we're gonna talkabout this on The Debrief in two weeks.

Why don't you share withus how we're gonna do that.

– Here's the truth.

When we feel safe we'remore capable to hear real.

And so what Matt and I havedone is we have created nine different strategiesfor you guys that we're gonna talk about on The Debriefso make sure you figure out how to listen to that, how to hear it, because when you prefacecriticism in a way that creates safety for your spouse, its gonna be so much moreeffective to make your relationship healthy sothat you can connect.

One of the ways that Mattand I an example of that is when Matt is critical ofme or needs to challenge me in something or tell mesomething hard that I don't wanna hear, he prefaces it now because remember I'm a loyalist, so safety and securityis everything to me.

Typically if I feelcriticized I start making an exit strategy in my mind.

'Okay, he's not okaywith me so I need to find a new apartment and a jobbecause our kids won't eat'.

I go to a crazy place.

– [Matt] It's true.

– And six's can relate to that.

And at the end Matt's like 'I just, I don't want you to dump thepot pie upside down anymore.

' And in my mind I'm likehomeless with my three kids.

And so one of the strategieshe's learned with me is he prefaces any kind ofcriticism with me now with 'I love you and I'm not going anywhere.

' When we start there, anythinghe has to say to me I can typically handle better.

– [Matt] Amen.

– So we have these strategies, and we have one for all nine, so you're gonna wanna listento those because again, creating safety allows youa safe place to be real.

– All right, all right.

Okay, last point.

You gotta find ways tospiritually connect.

So the world is trying tophysically tear you apart.

You gotta find ways tospiritually connect, and the number one way is simple.

Attend church together.

Attend church together.

Listen to me singles, wewent out to a restaurant and the couple that owns therestaurant goes to our church.

I said “How did you guys meet?” She said “Well he asked me out and I said I won't go out on a date with you, but I will go to church with you.

” And that's how they started their romance.

So attend church together.

And some of you, I know youcome every week all by yourself and your husband or your wifeis not interested in church.

Don't give up.

One of our best friends in life, we called him Grandpa Jack, and he's with the Lord now, but you know his wife asked him to go to church every week for 40 years.

And he never went.

And one day she broke herhip and could no longer drive herself to church, and she said “Will you take me to church?” And he said it was the firsttime in his life he heard God and God said 'You idiot.

Take your wife to church.

' Listen to me ladies.

He took his wife to church, and he went forward at the end of service and gave his life to Christ.

The first Sunday.

Don't give up, don't give up.

Okay? Number two, serve God together on a team.

Man, it's a great way toconnect with each other.

And singles, that's agreat way to meet somebody.

Get off E-Harmony and get ministry, that's a great way to meet somebody.

We were just talking withone of our production leads in the back.

She's getting married thisJuly, she's 34 years old.

She said “You know what? I just decided I was gonna be single.

” She met her spouse inproduction in ministry.

That's a great place to find if somebody's really a Christian, they'reactually serving God.

Go figure.

Okay, so serve God on a team together.

Next, join or start a community group.

Tammy and I are in a community group and in our group one ofthe husbands was sharing and I couldn't believe it.

Listen to me ladies, the wife was doing this.

And I was like 'What is going on?' And this is what she said.

They'd been married for over 20 years.

She said “I've never heardmy husband share something like that before.

” A simple community groupquestion brought clarity on an issue that they'dbeen having for years and she got to hear herhusband talk about God.

It's so important.

And lastly, if you'remarried, pray together.

There's so many thingsthat make Tammy feel safe, but there's nothing that makesher feel more safe at night when I pray for her, and we have adult children and I could care less if they come home, she's like 'I wanna know they're safe' and I just pray over her so we can “relax” that everybody's safe, everybody's safe, all the doors are locked, we'renot gonna be killed tonight, and we just pray.

Some of you guys arescared to death to pray.

Look, just be you.

You don't have to be anybody else, but we wanna close ourservice, Tammy and I, just by praying over you.

So whether you're single, or whether you're married, will you just bow yourheads, close your eyes, and we wanna pray over youthat God will bless you.

And we're gonna start with the singles, just lift your hands and thenwe're gonna pray over those who are married, so let'sjust pray over them.

Heavenly Father we prayover those who are single.

Lord I know it's tough.

God I just pray that you blessthem with strength and trust.

That God you know right where they are and you have them rightwhere they need to be.

Help them to trust You in this process and trust their futureromance in your hands.

Now God I wanna pray overthose who are married, and if you just lift yourhands if you're married.

God, there's nothing moreimportant than this relationship.

God you brought them together, and they're so differentand often times there's so many issues.

God instead of beingcritical could we focus on those things that welove about one another and just share those sothat we can come together and be intimate Lord, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Bless their marriage, bless their marriage.

We pray this in Jesus name, Amen.

Sandals, Tammy and I, we love you.

God bless.

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Because Sandals Church is anon-profit that operates from donations from people like you, because when you donate yourmoney goes to creating places for people to be real all over this world.

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[Music] you guys we sold almost 800, 000 pair of Tony's cheeks health sandals that's a lot of sandals because again pick one pair and you come back for another because they feel so good and offer you so much support Tony I just want to say thank you because what you've done you you've changed the game when it comes to supportive sandals I didn't change it by myself I have dr.

Marjorie Ravitz president in a podiatrist so she's helped a lot and a lot of what I do but I realized very early on just if I could show it just quickly I guess I shouldn't get on but that Santos weren't meant to be good for your feet right okay and even things like this no support no gel no nothing 200 bucks yeah right so what we did is we developed a health sandal cheek cell so you know there are one-piece design your foot sits inside of them so it protects your foot you have have arch support full gel heel cup and you have a toe bar and guess what it's one piece super lightweight waterproof Scott proof and we're gonna show you some of these that people our models are brought back and have been wearing them for 10 years yeah that's when you first launch these sandals and these are twenty bucks today right they are and they this brand are these prints and patterns have been saved for us in this final show we've got the giraffe and the natural and the black and white which is what I'm wearing I love only about 500 of these left total around 500 total of the natural giraffe okay that's it a little more than that in the black and white giraffe but very limited and then we've got the NAP of the leopard we've got the grey the natural or the pink leopard and very limited across the board at 1995 lowest price by far we've ever done on these load up try them get a couple pair cuz you can't live without them I know you can't because I mean obviously the most important thing we can do it is all of our foundation of our body comes from our feet okay and I'm sure a lot of people out there know as you get older your feet then out then you're taking all that impacted by this this is also made out of all evie a EBA is the same material using all our about letting footwear for impact absorption so you got only something that not only is comfortable you listener with dr.

Marjorie Ravitz has to say yes listen to what the doctor says but keep in mind almost 800, 000 of these is sold and I can promise you a lot of people have three – four – five – six different colors oh for sure in various different prints and discernible knowledge the number one schoiar it is these are so darn cute they're going very fast already we do want to take a listen to dr.

Ravitz she's the podiatrist in New York that Tony met she's got a couple thoughts she'd like to share with us take a look I love cheeks healthy lifestyle sandals for so many reasons as a podiatrist I understand the reason they're so comfortable and they're great for your feet first they have this wonderful arch support that helps your foot function while you're walking it also has this wonderful gel bed which gives you shock absorption it has a unique toe bar which allows your toes to be more natural and hold on to the shoe as opposed to the conventional flip-flops where you get that clip-clop sound as you're walking it also has one-piece design so it's not coming apart as you're walking and it's just so cute I love them how cute are you guys all I mean except for you Tony I'm just kidding but seriously they're so darling by the way and I don't mean Asus but I am gonna ask it how many of you have owned these for a while oh yeah all right all right and don't I have some of yours that I traded you for and why you know I traded my because she has like a ten year old pair that she's been wearing you guys are stealing my seven year old pair eight year old pair they gave me now you buy a pair of sandals does it blast no oxygen it lasts for that long okay so let me show you the concept here and by the way the natural leopard which is over here there's only about 300 pairs left for the whole country okay and that's it for the seasons you know so this is a stretchy EBA this is a real cushion material it's a one-piece design so there is no way of this breaking most you know I'm saying it's all mortared together as one piece right now see how her feet sit inside this saying okay sue she has a foot cradle it wouldn't most she knows you have you slide him back and forth she's not gonna slide because she has a toe bumper and then when you turn around and look at the back of the foot she has a heel cup and again see how flexible it is see how mu she's got the gel she's got arch support and and the biggest thing is they fit your feet like a glove look at that exactly now the first one to go is going to be that the natural effort if six to 11 whole sizes only pink how hot is that how cut is that that is so darn cute are you see this is when we shouldn't be used in here now this is where we should be Yujin where you have a hand held over your hand held this is one of my favorite and a leopard yeah we saw it out in Italy on this alright we sold out in Italy and all this is he and I felt really cool about it because you think anyway is you know footwork alright I'm showing these things I don't like them quickly you can pay Tony over a thousand are gone we just got here this is the first show well they're not available I wasn't gone show again this way I want to call it Snow Leopard and and because it to me it reminds me so lever it's just so cool yeah right over here you get the white your app yeah and you got the all-natural giraffe and welcome back to the technology I just got carried away well it's always fun to see what they look like on the girls and what you can wear them with and these are not like a twenty dollar flip-flops that you see in those stores oh no my gosh trust us the I mean this for example the support that you get all the way from underneath your you know the balls of your feet through the heel it is incredible and Tony taught me through dr.

ravitz never to go barefoot even when you're in your own home like walking your own house always wear something that offers the support like these well they a pair of these weight a pair of these weighs about six ounces to seven ounces you put these in your backpack you carry them with you everywhere you go you travel through the airports you go through the malls you go to the parks these things go everywhere and they're more comfortable think of them as an orthotic type Footwear it's actually cute yeah alright this is actually cute and there and you'll get a lot of different types of colors every year and fashions that you can keep on expanding yeah and you're not spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars on something these are they don't get there we go many many pair I too have my originals which was a long long time ago thanks you can't wear them out we want to take a listen to Lauren at other testimonials Oh I know they're going very quickly this one's gonna sell out in the next probably minute or two if you want to get it now in the meantime take a listen to Lauren we're gonna show you more on the other side when I first sampled Tony littles cheeks sandals I was so surprised to find out that of my other friends were using them as well I'm a model so I go back and forth between casting calls and auditions all the time I'm running around in my heels let's be honest ladies we're in our 30s now and we need a little cushion for our feet it's like a hug for your entire foot go and get yourself a pair I highly recommend them I've even got them on right now as a mom of three I am always on my feet I'm on my feet eight 12 hours a day so I never get to sit so that's why I love my cheeks health sandals because when I wear this all day long I feel like I'm getting a massage all day it fits me like a glove plus the arch support is amazing feeling on my feet and with the gel that's in here it gives me the massage so my feet never come out my favorite part of the shoe is the fact that this is attached I can't tell you how many times I have gone through flip-flops because my kids or somebody else steps on my foot and my flip-flop is now ruined again it fits me so good as snug plus I love the fact that it's an animal print so it gives me a little bit of that wild side okay guys Tony guess what bye bye bye but natural let pretty sold out did I told you what how could you natural giraffe will be the next one take a look at this I want people to understand the beauty of this thing right there totally waterproof yeah they're totally scuff proof you can see the support you're getting through having all the same all the low-impact DVA all this right here why not support all the ability for it to fit like a glove and guess what take how many sandals out there you spend $100 on you get wet they smell in the and you have to get rid of them this I wanted to show everyone I'm probably some of the original I'm going to say one thing real quick real quick to everyone at home you absolutely cannot go wrong on any one of these cenotes you buy today on any color you buy it is 20 bucks lowest which is unheard of ver it's the last quantity for the year you will flip out well here's the thing we've sold all closing in on 1700 with all the people on the phones we've got about 3000 left in the next seven minutes I predict they'll all sell out that's right this is advanced right she did I have all the models turning in their old sandals sorry 2007 look at 2010 years old look at that still 10 years old right right what's this one does have a mark on it this one day they all have a back them in order okay mm so this is seven years old seven years old 2006 okay dirty over 10 years much still same thing never broke busted these 11 years old yeah these are my first that's incredible but just a heel Joe there that's right at first okay to update you we have oh my gosh so many people are picking this purchase up as the very first time buying anything at HSN and we welcome all of you if you're a new customer amazing piece to get I want to show you the choices because they're all gonna sell out we've got the three leopard choices here's pink gray or natural we sold out of this one I'm sorry we do have the giraffe print which I'm wearing in the black and white we also have the natural and that one's gonna sell out next just fair warning for you there okay let's take a look at what people have considered to be options in the past we get a chance to go back to dr.

Ravitz because this summation but here's the deal okay this is all heavy-duty rubber it's all heavy right your slip it is sliding there's no support to your fee there's no arch support there's no heel Joe there's no nothing and it's 200 bucks over 200 hours here people are going out there and putting basically cardboard like on your feet they're slipping and sliding all the time no support again look how thin it is $66 or something like that okay over here no I'm just gonna tell you this is a popular sandal this has been a popular channel for many years you can actually spend seventy eighty dollars on the sandal yeah look at that immediately had a name all right so it's sold and this one sells for thirty two dollars and there's nothing else but a price then again you come over here even that's what this is all flat right I cut it open everything like a cute but fifty bucks okay all right so anyway was supported you know there's no different feet need support we have so many little little bones and little tendons and little muscles and as we get older Tony you told me this all the time our feet thin out whether you're thinning out or not our feet need support in order to survive listen I will tell you that my wife's sister steals my wife's sandals all the time knowing that my wife will get a second supply from her husband of course okay everybody once you try these write us let us know but I got to tell you something by every single one of these as quick as you can you will never go wrong on cheeks health sandals ever double check on the graphic and there's a flex pay so you pay ten to try them they are they are a game-changer I love living in like the flip-flop world but I'm telling you what don't buy something cheap that's gonna fall apart in you and not support you're gonna slip out of and did you see something says she says it's just every one of these everyone he's thinking look at every one of these hey you're sitting on top of this and all you're sitting on top yeah right knees you're sitting inside this sandal here right which allows you to protect your toes tucked your feet to fit like a glove to have a heel sleep running out of time here I want to take a listen to dr.

Ravitz one last time do you mind no I don't mind about last show the whole birthday month take a listen to dr.

Ravitz is your place you order will update you on the other side love cheeks healthy lifestyle sandals for so many reasons as a podiatrist I love them because they put your foot in its proper position they have a wonderful arch support it has this full length gel bed which gives you shock absorption it has a unique toe bar and this allows your toes to hold on without working too hard and not getting that flip-flop clip-clop feeling that you do with conventional thongs it also has a one-piece design so it's not coming apart as you're wearing it and you're nice and comfortable when I first sampled Tony littles cheeks sandals I was so surprised to find out that of my other friends were using them as well I'm a model so I go back and forth between casting calls and auditions all the time I'm running around in my heels let's be honest ladies we're in our 30s now and we need a little cushion for our feet it's like a hug for your entire foot go and get yourself a pair I highly recommend them I've even got them on right now I highly recommend them too from me to you they are incredible I wear these every day in my house I don't even walk around barefoot anymore I don't make my breakfast unless I'm wearing these because they need my feet need to support yours do to update you on choices natural leopard is gone we do have the gray leopard the pink leopard and then two choices in the giraffe print here's your black and white here's your natural six.

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And we are super excited, because, today, we're starting a brand-new series, hearing a message from ourlead pastor Matt Brown, about how to elevate ourlives by focusing on the hope that only our God can give.

And as we start our time together, we're gonna be singing a few songs, remembering that worshipingGod is not about where we are.

It's about who God is.

So would you engage in this time with us? Would you join in? Would you sing? Would you clap, as we worship God, joining with people all over the world? – We wanna invite you all, right now, to join in lifting up our good God.

Right now, let's let go of our fears.

Let's let go of our worry.

And let's celebrate hisgoodness and his faithfulness.

I don't know where you're at, right now.

Maybe you need to kick off your slippers, set down your coffee, because we're about to have a little dance partyfor the Lord, all right.

So let's get those hands going.

Let's sing, when the night has fallen.

(upbeat music) ♪ When night has fallen ♪ ♪ When fear is common ♪ ♪ Still you're calling me ♪ ♪ When faith is lostand my hope exhausted ♪ ♪ You will be my strength ♪ ♪ When my mind says I'm not good enough ♪ ♪ God, you're enough for me ♪ ♪ I've decided I'm not giving up ♪ ♪ 'Cause you won't give up on me ♪ ♪ You won't give up on me ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Echo in my soul ♪ ♪ Soul ♪ – In every season ♪ In every season, you keep repeating ♪ ♪ Promises to me ♪ ♪ Whoa ♪ ♪ And there's no stoppingwhat you have started ♪ ♪ Until it is complete ♪ ♪ When my mind says I'm not good enough ♪ ♪ God, you're enough for me, yeah ♪ ♪ I've decided I'm not giving up ♪ ♪ 'Cause you won't give up on me ♪ ♪ You won't give up on me ♪ ♪ You're love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Echo in my soul ♪ ♪ Soul ♪ ♪ In my soul ♪ ♪ Soul ♪ ♪ When my mind says I'm not good enough ♪ ♪ God, you're enough for me ♪ ♪ I've decided I'm not giving up ♪ ♪ 'Cause you won't give up on me ♪ ♪ You won't give up on me ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out, breaking out, breaking out ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Your love is holdingon, and it won't let go ♪ ♪ I feel it breaking out like an echo ♪ ♪ Echo in my soul ♪ ♪ Soul ♪ ♪ In my soul ♪ ♪ Soul ♪ – Woo!- Woo! – God, we look to you for our strength.

We turn our eyes to you.

Right in the middle of the storm, God, we raise our highest praise to you.

♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ In the presence of my enemies ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ Louder than the unbelief, yeah, yeah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ My weapon is a melody ♪ ♪ Oh yeah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ Heaven comes to fight for me, yeah ♪ – [Bek] Come on, sing this out.

♪ I'm gonna sing in themiddle of the storm ♪ ♪ Louder an louder ♪ ♪ You're gonna hear my praises roar ♪ ♪ Up from the ashes, hope will arise ♪ ♪ Death is defeated ♪ ♪ The King is alive, oh ♪ ♪ Hallelujah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah, yeah ♪ ♪ With everything inside of me ♪ ♪ Oh, Almighty God ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ I will watch the dark days flee ♪ ♪ Oh yeah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ In the middle of the mystery ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ Fear you lost your hold on me ♪ ♪ Whoa ♪ ♪ I'm gonna sing in themiddle of the storm ♪ ♪ Louder and louder ♪ ♪ You're gonna hear my praises roar ♪ ♪ Up from the ashes, hope will arise ♪ ♪ Death is defeated ♪ ♪ The King is alive ♪ ♪ Oh, he's alive, he's alive ♪ ♪ Almighty God ♪ – Right where you are, sing this with us ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ – Come on, right where you are.

♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ In the presence of my enemies ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Louder than the unbelief ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ My weapon is a melody ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Heaven comes to fight for me ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ In the presence of my enemies ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ Louder than the unbelief ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ My weapon is a melody ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ And heaven comes to fight for me ♪ ♪ Sing a little louder ♪ ♪ I'm gonna sing ♪- Come on! ♪ In the middle of the storm ♪ Come on, declare this out! ♪ Louder and louder ♪ ♪ You're gonna hear my praises roar ♪ ♪ Up from the ashes ♪ ♪ Hope will arise ♪ ♪ Death is defeated ♪ ♪ The King is alive ♪ ♪ I'm gonna sing ♪ ♪ In the middle of the storm ♪ ♪ Louder and louder ♪ ♪ You're gonna hear my praises roar ♪ ♪ Up from the ashes, hope will arise ♪ ♪ Death is defeated ♪ ♪ The King is alive ♪ ♪ He's alive ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ ♪ I raise a hallelujah ♪ – Yeah! – Amen!- Jesus! – Father, we raise up a hallelujah.

Let praises ever be on our lips to glorify your beautifulname, Jesus, amen.

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My name is Matt Brown, and I'm the pastor here, at Sandals Church, and I am so excited that you joined us, today, for church.

I mean, the reality is, what are you gonna do when you live in California, man? These crazies don't wantus to go to the beach, don't want us to have any fun, right, so you got to check out church.

Look, I am glad that you are here, today, just tuning in withus, connecting with us, and my Sandals Church family, thank you so much, praying for you, and I want this series.

I don't know where you are.

I don't know what you're going through.

I don't know what's happened in your week.

I have not had a great week.

I don't know if you've had a bad week, a bad day, a bad month.

I mean 2020, not a great year, amen? Can't hear it, but I'msure you gave me one.

I just want this series toelevate you and lift you up, so no matter where you are, man, if you're in an emotional funk, if you just, like me, youjust feel just cooped up, kept in, and you're ready to let it out, this is the series for you.

And today, I want to talk about how Jesus can elevate my life when I feel discouraged.

I've been discouraged a lot, lately.

A lot's been going on.

Things haven't been going my way.

I haven't been having the things that I want to happen happen, and I get discouraged.

And I want you to know thatno matter where you are, no matter what's happening in your life, Jesus can elevate you and lift you out of whatever you feel stuck in, whatever you feel surrounded by, or whatever you feel overlooked by.

Jesus can lift you out of that, right now, in this series, and I want you not only to think about yourself, but I want you to think about somebody that needs this series.

We're gonna be in the book of Philippians.

In every sermon, excepttoday, we're gonna start with a story of Jesus, and then we're gonna getinto the book of Philippians, and Paul, from prison, is gonna lift us up.

So how can Jesus elevate my life when I feel discouraged.

If you're not discouraged, save this for later.

Jesus can elevate my lifewhen, write this down, when I'm ready to listen.

I know a lot of you, you're like me.

And you get frustrated when you feel like God's not listening.

I want you to know Godis always listening.

We're the ones that almost never listen.

You see, so many of us, weget frustrated in prayer, because we feel like God's not hearing us.

And oftentimes, the problem isnot that God doesn't hear us, it's that we're not hearing him.

When I turned 40, which was unfortunately, a couple of years ago, and those years arerunning by more quickly than I would like, I realized, at 40, that I gotta live differently.

I went through a major, major heartache, with a personal friend at Sandals Church.

We had a falling out.

I had discipled him, ministered together, and the whole thing blew up.

And I realized that I neededto change some things.

Three things that I wanted to change, for the next 40 years of my ministry, assuming I'm gonna bea pastor till 80, amen? Let's all hope not.

Three things I realizedI needed to change, number one, I need to listen better.

You see, as a leader, Ioftentimes find myself wanting to share how I feel, and Iwant people to listen to me.

I realize I don't listen well.

I wanted to listen better, love more, and lead more incredibly.

I wanted to listen, love, and lead.

Those were the things Ineeded to change in my life, but it all started, thetransformation had to start with me shuttin' up, andme starting to listen up, and say, God, what do you want to say? God, I want to value you, and I want to value others when they talk to me.

I'm good at talking.

I was terrible at listening.

So let me just ask you.

Some of you don't believe in Jesus.

If Jesus spoke to you, are you ready to listen? Or would you just put it off.

Oh, that was just gas.

That's something I ate, yesterday, for dinner.

That couldn't be God.

That's just my conscience talking to me.

That's just my mom.

That's my grandma, who grew up in church.

That's her old sayings talking to me.

If Jesus spoke to you, today, would you be willing to listen? Let me just ask you.

How is God gonna change your life, if you won't listen to howhe wants to change your life? You see, as Americans, we want to be heard.

But as Christians, weneed to learn to listen.

So we look at the Gospel of John, chapter five, in verse one.

It says: Afterward, Jesusreturned to Jerusalem for one of the Jewish holidays.

Inside the city, near theSheep Gate, was the pool of Bethesda, with five covered porches.

Now I hope, one day, we had to cancel our tripto Israel, this year, 'cause basically, fun iscanceled, amen, in 2020? No fun, no fun for you, no fun for anyone! So we had to cancel our trip to Israel.

One of my favorite things, God willing, we ever get to go to Israel, together, is to go to this place.

We know exactly where this place is.

Some of you, you're like, oh, the Bible's all made up.

Let me tell you something, this place ain't made up.

I've been there.

I've stood there.

I've been there.

It's a beautiful place.

And one of my favoritethings to do when we go there as a church is to ask oneof our worship leaders to sing “Amazing Grace, “in this beautiful church, built right over the top of this pool.

And it's amazing.

Every time we do it, wewalk into this church, and Sandals Church, right, we just take over.

Everybody goes in there, andI push our worship leaders, because I can't sing, right.

If I started singing, everybody'd run out.

I push them up there.

Come on, sing, sing, sing! It's amazing.

We started singing “Amazing Grace.

” We started singing “It is Well.

” And the next thing youknow, Muslims are comin' in.

Jewish people are coming in, just travelers from all over the world.

They're not Christian at all.

They just come in, sit down, and you watch people cry.

It is such a gorgeous, beautiful, awesome place, and I hope you get to go there, before you go to heaven, because it's as close to heaven on earth as Ithink we're gonna get.

It's just one of thoseplaces that I love to go.

I never miss it when we go there.

I've been there, and everytime I go to Jerusalem, I go to this place.

It was a special place then, and it's a special place now.

So here we are, near the Sheep Gate, with the pool of Bethesda.

Crowds of sick people, blind, lame, paralyzed, they lay on the porches.

People would come to this place, because they believed it wasa place of magic healing.

You see, they didn't know why, but in the city of Jerusalem, the city of Jerusalem's a mountain city.

So think about that.

How on earth do you build a mountain city when water flows to the lowest point? So how do you have a city on a mountain? Well, here's the amazingthing about Jerusalem, is it has all kinds of underground rivers.

And the city is fed, miraculously, by water you can't see, and so here's what happens, as water moves underneath the city.

From time to time, the waterin these pools would bubble up, and then it would swirl.

And here's what people believed.

If you were the first personafter the water was stirred, to get in, you'd be healed.

And so people that werecrippled, sick, blind, lame, they would lay there, for weeks, months, some of them, years, wantingto be the first person, because what they thought is, you had to be first, in orderto experience the miracle.

And so here's this individual, that Jesus is going tochange their life forever, who's waiting for a falsehope, waiting for someone else to do something that they can't do.

So here's what we know nowadays, is water swirls around, and it wasn't angels.

It's just water pressure changing.

And so we had a false hope, but they all lay there, by the porches, waiting for the water to stir.

One of the men, lying there, he'd been sick, underlinethis, for 38 years.

Man, you and I, we've beentrapped in our houses.

I mean, if you live outside of California, you get to do what you wantto do, but in California, we gotta do what the governor says.

We gotta do.

That's just where we are, and that's who we are.

So we've been trapped inour houses for eight weeks, eight weeks, right? I've looked at all the books.

I've watched every showI wanna watch on Netflix.

Like, I'm done.

I don't want to stare at another screen.

I don't wanna have another Zoom meeting.

Thank you so much forwatching my face, today.

I know some of you are fed up with it.

But, man, I've only done eight weeks.

Eight weeks, that's it.

This guy has been sick for 38 years.

I can't do eight weeks.

Eight weeks, I'm goin' nuts.

He's done 38 years.

And some of you, especially those of our Sandals people in L.

A.

County, when you heard the countyannounce you got to shelter in place, for three moremonths, you're like, I'm gonna shelter you in place.

You know what I'm saying? And you had some crazy thoughts.

Like, some of you just went crazy.

I had people tell me, I'mjust gonna get the COVID.

I'm just gonna get rid of it.

Like, we were all afraid of it.

Now you're like, no, no, just give it to me.

I wanna be done, so I can be free.

Isn't that amazing? In eight weeks, we've gonefrom I don't want to get sick to just get me sick, so Ican get out of the house and not be afraid anymore.

This guy's been there 38 years.

38 years, he's been sick.

He's been lame.

For 38 years, he's suffered.

And here he is, beside this pool of water, and he believes if he canjust get in the water, he'll be healed.

So there he is lyin', and Jesus saw him.

Isn't that amazing? This guy's not the only personthat's around this pool, but this is the personJesus wants to talk to.

Let me just ask you.

We got about, I don't know, 25, 40, 000 people watching.

What if this whole thing today is just so Jesus can talk to you? Like, all of us are just on your trip.

This is your bus, and we'veall gathered together, just so you can hear from Jesus.

So there's all these people, all these hurting people, all these sick people, and Jesus says, “I want to talk to you.

” When Jesus saw him, and he knew he'd beenill, for a long time.

He could tell, in the same way that you can tell when somebody's been battlingan illness, for a long time.

You can tell somebody who'sbeen homeless for a day, versus somebody who'sbeen homeless for a year.

You can tell.

Your eyes can tell you the story that you don't need to hear.

Jesus knew.

And he asked him.

He said, “Would you like to get well?” One of the things I wantto encourage you to do, if you're new toChristianity, is just read through the Gospels.

That's Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, and just underline thequestions Jesus asks people.

You see, I know a lot of you, you say I've got all kindsof questions for God.

I've got all kinds of questions for God.

I got all kinds of thingsthat don't make sense, that just don't seem to addup, and when I get to heaven, I'm gonna give God a piece of my mind.

Well, let me ask you something.

You think a lot about thequestions you have for God? What if you thought about the questions that Jesus has for you? And Jesus says, “Wouldyou like to get well?” Would you like to get well? And you know why Jesusasked this question? 'Cause some of you rightnow are lying to yourself, and you're telling yourself, I want this COVID thing over, and the truth is, youreally like complaining.

You really like being a grouch.

Some of you really like not going to work.

Some of you have gotten really, really comfortable in suffering.

And the truth is, you'vegotten into a rut, and if you had to change, maybe you wouldn't change.

You wouldn't like to change.

So Jesus says, “Wouldyou like to get well, ” 'cause not all of us want to be well.

Some of us just want to complain.

Some of us just want to moan.

Some of us just want to gripe.

Some of us just want to be critical.

Some of us just want to be mean.

Jesus says, “Do you want to get well?” Do you want to get well? Just because somebody is in a hospital doesn't meanthey want to get well.

You know that doctorstell me, all the time, doctors at our church, thatit's hard to get people to actually follow their prescriptions? Did you know that whenpeople go to a hospital, and the doctor makes a diagnosis, people oftentimes don'tlisten to the doctor.

They don't even go to the pharmacy.

A certain percentage of peopledon't even go to the pharmacy to get the medication thatthe doctor said they needed.

And then some of us, what we do, is we go and get the medication, 'cause we got a small copay, and we spend the five bucks.

We spend the 10 bucks or the 20 bucks or whatever your copay is.

But we don't finish the medication.

What's the last words outof the doctor's mouth? Make sure you finish all your medication.

Do you know why we don'tfinish our medication? We don't want to get well.

We don't.

As Americans, it's beenproven that we are better at feeding medication to ourpets than we are to ourselves.

You know, if Fido's sick, you're gonna make Fido takeevery single pill, why? 'Cause you could lie to him and stick it in cheese, like I do.

That's what I do to my dog.

She has no idea she's taking medicine.

She just thinks, oh, I got string cheese.

Bumph, there you go.

But you take better care of your dog than you do of yourself.

And the truth is, youneed to ask yourself, do you want to get well? Do you want to get well? Do you want to get healthy? Do you want to get healthy? I mean, some of you havebeen sittin' on your butt for eight weeks, and youhaven't walked outside once.

You haven't exercised once.

Do you want to get well? No, I just want to gripe and complain, blame God, blame everybody else.

Jesus is asking, “Doyou want to get well?” He's saying, “Listen to me, I can elevate your life.

” But Jesus is not gonna liftyou if you're not ready to fly.

He's not.

He's asking you, do you want to get well? Now I'm not Jesus, but youknow what drives me crazy? Wasting my time with peoplewho don't want to change.

Wasting my time.

Moms will drag their teenager in.

Teenager has no desire to change.

They say, well, he's gonna listen to you.

No, they're not gonna listen to me until they want to change.

Some of you, yourmarriage is on the rocks.

You drag your husbandor you drag your wife, you drag your mom, yourdad, you bring 'em in, listen to the pastor, man! They're not gonna listen to anybody until they want to change, until they want to get well.

You see, if you don'twant your marriage healed, how am I gonna heal it? If you don't want your finances healed, how on earth is Jesus gonna heal it? If you're not ready to change, why is God gonna waste histime trying to change you? You gotta listen.

Jesus says, “Would you like to get well?” Number two, Jesus can elevate my life when I am done with excuses.

Man, some of you, you'reso good at excuses.

You got 1, 000 reasons whyJesus can't change your life.

Jesus says, “Would you like to get well?” The man says, “I can't.

” You think that's news to Jesus? Obviously, you can't.

He didn't ask if you can get well.

He asked if you want to get well.

He says, “I can't, ” the sick man said, “for I have no one to put me into the pool “when the water bubbles up.

“Someone always getsin there ahead of me.

” Some of you are 60 years old, still blaming your father for your life.

You haven't lived withyour dad for 40 years.

What are you doing? Do you want to get well? You've got to leave your parents life.

And you gotta create your own life.

Some of you are like, well, I got divorced.

I'll never fall in love again.

Man, you gotta leave that last marriage, if you want the marriageGod wants to give you.

Some of you like being stuck in your pain, and Jesus says, “Did you want out?” He says, “I can't change, and I have no one.

“I grew up poor.

” Or then we have the -isms, right.

Everybody loves the -isms.

I can't change.

I can't be who God's calledme to because of racism, because of sexism.

Oh, socialism, right? Oh, capitalism! We always love the -isms.

Jesus says, “Do you want to get well?” What do you want? You see, some of you, man, you wouldn't fly if anangel came next to you and said, hey, let's go, let's go.

You're just stuck.

You've gotten used to livingat a level that is far beneath anything God's evercalled you to do or to live.

“I can't, sir.

“I can't, ” he said.

“I got no one.

” I'm a single mom.

I'm a single person.

Man, I'm lower income.

Man, I have no income.

I lost my job.

I lost my business.

Jesus, you can't possibly change my life.

I didn't even get a stimulus check.

That's how much God hates me.

I didn't even get a stimulus check.

Right, and that's whatyou're telling your friends.

Of course, course, I didn't get a check.

All your friends got a check.

You didn't get a check.

You're like, I could changeif I got a stimulus check.

Then you get the check.

Well, it's not the amount that I thought.

I can't actually change.

I can't actually be different.

Hosea 4:4, this is a powerful verse, and I want you to listen: Don't point your finger at someone else and try to pass the blame.

You know what our world'sspiritual gift is? Pointing the finger.

Don't do it.

Don't point your finger at someone else and try to pass the blame.

Don't do it.

You know who God's talkingto, in Hosea, chapter four? He's talking to priests, his priests, and he's calling them to account.

It's his people, his leaders, and he says, “I'm talking to you.

“Don't blame everybody else.

” And that's what we love to do, right? We love to blame everybody else.

I would've stayed married ifmy wife would've done this, my husband would've done that.

I would've been a betterparent if my kids liked to play the sport that I like to play.

I would've done better with money if I'd have been given more opportunities.

I would've done this.

I would've done that.

And it's constantly neverever, ever your fault.

Our culture is allergic to responsibility.

We're allergic.

I can't, sir.

I can't change.

I can't, I can't! One of the verses we're gonnago over, in this series, is I can do all things inChrist who strengthens me, and I never want you to forget it.

Jesus isn't asking whatcan you do on your own.

He's saying, what can we do together? What can we do together? Don't point the finger at somebody else.

Don't blame somebody else.

This is Jesus talkingto you, and he's saying, “With me, everything's possible.

“What are we gonna do together?” And you're like, “Well, I can't, “'cause nobody will help me.

” Man, some of you, you're just swirling in a world of emotional pain.

And you can't see anything right now.

And maybe you've movedon from blaming your ex, from blaming your parents, from blaming your boss, from blaming another ethnic group, and now you've graduatedto the ultimate blame game.

You blame God.

I want you to know that there's a guy in the Bible named Job, andhis whole life fell apart, because Satan asked Godto let him torture him.

Think about that.

Can you imagine rightnow, Satan's in heaven, and Satan's like, hey, you know what, I want to mess this dude's life up? And this is what Satan said to God, “Job only loves you, 'causeyou always bless his life.

” “And if he loses all of hisblessings, he will curse you.

” And Satan said, “I could prove it.

” And so God gave Satan permission to just wreak havoc on Job's life.

Lost all of his property, losthis house, lost his animals, lost his kids, everythingwas taken from Job.

Listen to this: In all of this, Job didnot sin by blaming God, by blaming God.

Look, it's easy to blame God.

It's hard to take responsibility and let God change your life.

I just want you to know, right now, that COVID-19 is notjust happening to you.

It's happening to everyone.

God has not singled you out.

You are not Job.

We're just in a crappy year.

That's what 2020 is.

2020 is just a crappy year.

That's what it is.

And we're all in this together.

And everybody's driving around, crazy, acting like there'snobody else on the road, acting like nobody else isgoing through this, right.

We've all seen, now, peopleare not nice anymore.

People are rude in the grocery stores, pushing people over.

Man, an ice cream store, on the East Coast, had to shut down the day they opened, 'cause people are so rude, can't even be nice for ice cream.

That's how upset everybody is.

“But in all of this, “Job did not sin by blaming God.

” Let me ask you this.

Who are you blaming for keeping you from the life God wants to bless you with? Who are you blaming? Where does your fingerpoint when you get upset? Because until you're willing to do this, okay, Lord, I'm ready to change, and I can't do this onmy own, and I need you, until you do this, Jesus can't elevate you.

He won't elevate you.

You see, heaven beginswith accepting the hell that you've placed yourself in.

If you want to go up, you got to look at where you've gone down.

You gotta look at that.

Next, if I want Jesus to elevate my life, if I want him to lift me up, if I'm discouraged, if I'm overwhelmed, if I'm upset, and Iwant him to lift me up, I'm done, I'm done, today, Lord, I'm done with this, if I want him to elevate me, I have to be obedient tohis commands, obedient.

I want you to look at this passage.

This guy doesn't even know who Jesus is.

He doesn't even know who he is.

Jesus told him, “Stand up!” Stand up, he's crippled! He can't stand up.

He's lying down.

He can't even get upand get into the water.

He can't even roll into the water.

Jesus says, “Get up!” Right, some of us can't evenget our kids out of bed, and there's nothing wrong with your legs.

And you're like, Lord, yougave me these children.

It's your fault.

You gave me these kids.

Jesus told him to stand up, pick up your mat and walk.

I love to quote this first one, when Tammy won't leave a party.

It's my favorite Bible verse.

Tammy, arise, pick upyour mat and go home, 'cause he wants to go home.

She never thinks it's funny.

Nobody ever does, but I keep saying it.

Instantly, instantly, the man was healed.

You see, Jesus says what's impossible with men is possible with God.

God can do anything, anything.

But some of you won't lethim do anything in your life.

God can do anything, but you won't let him doanything in your life.

Instantly, the man was healed.

He rolled up his sleepingmat, and he began walking.

But this miracle happened on the Sabbath, and so the Jewish leaders objected.

They said, “Hey!” They said to the man who was cured, “You can't do that on the Sabbath!” You see, it was illegalfor you to carry your mat, because it was considered an act of work.

“You can't do that.

“The law does not allow youto carry that sleeping mat.

” But he replied, “The man whohealed me, ” underline that.

“The man who healed me, “he said, 'Pick up your mat and walk.

' “And you know what, Iwas healed, so I obeyed.

” Some of you, you need to underline, so you'll never forget it.

This man doesn't even know who Jesus is, and he's more obedient than you are, and you call him your Savior.

He doesn't even know who he is.

Well, I don't know, some dude.

But you know what? When somebody yells at me, and I'm healed, I listen, I listen.

I listen.

“Pick up your mat and walk.

” “Who said such a thing, ” they demanded.

And the man didn't now.

He doesn't know who Jesus is.

He just knows a miracle happened, so he listened to the guy, because Jesus disappeared into the crowd.

Isn't that amazing? Isn't that amazing? Why are you living the life you're doing? Why are you going against, listen to me, cultural norms, expected norms? Why is it that you'redoing something different from everyone else? He said, “Because thisman, Jesus, told me to.

” Man, this week, I wasat a press conference.

And, I mean, I'm tellin' you guys, there was news media fromall over the place, man.

I actually said, out loud, I said, oh my gosh Telemundo's here? I said that out loud.

Out loud, I said that, pray for me, and one of the, you know, lovely reporters said, “What, you don't like Mexicans?” I was like, “No, I just didn'tthink they would ever care “what I had to say.

” Right, Telemundo is gonna report what I'm gonna say in Spanish.

I couldn't believe it.

I was overwhelmed.

And so everybody has to go up to the mic.

You go up to the microphone.

I know I have a mic in my hand, but you go up to the microphone, and you take off your mask, right, 'cause we're all COVID-aware.

You take off your mask andyou speak in the microphone, and you're supposed to say your name and where you're from and why you're here.

And there was eight of us, eight pastors.

So pastors come up, I'm Pastor So-and-So.

I pastor So-and-So Church.

I come up.

I'm Pastor Matt Brown, pastor of Sandals Church.

Telemundo! Right, you know, right, and I go.

And this guy named Jimcomes up to the microphone.

And this is what he says.

Now I've known Jim fora total of two days.

I've spoken to Jim fora total of 10 minutes.

I know nothing about Jim, except that he's married, except that he has a couple of kids, because I saw his photo behind his back, while we were doing a Zoom call.

That's all I know about Jim.

I don't know anything about Jim.

This is what Jim says into the microphone.

He says, “Hi, my name is Jim.

“And I'm a homosexual who was delivered “from my sexual sin by Jesus Christ.

” I was like, wow, I should've reallyrethought my introduction.

Right? Man, do you ever wish you got a do-over? Man, I'm Pastor Matt Brown.

I pastor Sandals Church.

Jim goes out there, slingin', boom! I was a former homosexual whowas delivered by my sexual sin by my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and that's why I'm here today.

I was like, wow! And he just launched in.

He wanted people to know why he was there.

He wasn't there, because he wants to gather together for worship, 'cause he wants to sing a couple songs, and he wants to shake hisfriend's hand at church.

He wants to gather togetheragain with the church, because Jesus not only saved his soul but delivered him from hissin, and he was obedient.

He was obedient.

“So why do you keep callingme Lord, ” Jesus says.

Listen to this, “If youcall yourself a Christian, “why do you keep calling me Lord, “when you don't do what I say?” You know why Jim lefthis homosexual lifestyle? Because he met Jesus, and he felt like that's what Jesus told him to do.

And we're all so afraid, and we love everybody.

Of course, we love everybody! Sandal's vision is not to hateourselves, others, and God.

That's not our vision.

Of course, we love everybody, but we're not loving if we don't call people to the truth, and Jesus said to this guy named Jim, do you want to change your life? He said yes, and he changed his life.

And this week, as I've been working with the governor'soffice, listen, church, I've met several homosexualmen who've had an encounter with Jesus, and he's changed their life, this same Jesus who heals people who are crippled and lame for 38 years.

That same love thatcalled that man to walk, that same love can change you forever.

And I saw it before my eyes, this week, and I was reminded this is why we gather.

We gather not because we're Christians.

We gather because Jesussaves and Jesus delivers.

That's why we gather.

It's not about, oh, we miss each other.

Oh, I hate Zoom.

Oh, I hate watching Matt on the screen.

We wanna gather, becauseour Lord and Savior calls us to gather, and he callsus to worship together, and he calls us to preach his Gospel.

That's why we wanna gather.

You see, Jesus saves, and Jesus delivers, and listen to me, my fellow Californians, that's why marijuana clinics are open and the church is closed.

That's why, in our state, your kid can get an abortion, but they can't go to the dentist.

You need to think about that.

Jesus not only saves.

He delivers, and he changes, and he goes against whateverybody else is saying.

He changes lives, andhe can change your life, just like he changed my life, just like he changed Pastor Jim's life, just like he changedthis crippled guy's life, for 38 years.

But why is it that this guy, who doesn't even know who Jesus is, is more obedient to you, whenyou tell all your friends who Jesus is and was and whathe did and what he can do? Why is he more obedientin confusion and ignorance than you are in the midstof your deliverance? Why? Now I know this lastpoint's gonna be hard.

And you're like, I thoughtthis sermon was elevate, right? And it's gonna go from elevate to deflate.

You're like, oh my gosh, you had us! We were excited, and nowyou're gonna bring it down.

But listen to me, listento what Jesus does.

Jesus changes this guy's life forever.

38 years, he's crippled.

38 years, nobody cares.

38 years, he doesn't evenhave a friend to get him into a pool of water to be healed.

Jesus heals him and runs away, right? Jesus can elevate my life when I elevate my fear of God.

You see, I get overwhelmed by life when I am underwhelmed by God.

It's okay to love Jesus and fear God.

As a matter of fact, thosetwo things are biblical.

And many of you do not fear God, because you are underwhelmed with God.

You have no idea who God is.

You have no idea how powerful he is.

Jesus, afterwards, hefound him in the temple.

I want you to know, some of you, you tell people you found Jesus.

You didn't find Jesus.

Jesus found you.

He found the man.

When my kids were little, I hated it, man.

They'd always get lostwhen I was watching them.

It's like, you get lostwhen Mom is watching you, not when Dad is watching you.

And I would search frantically, and I was never afraid our kids was lost.

I was afraid of their mother, right? Tammy can be scary.

And I'd find my kids hiding somewhere, in the clothes rack, oron a level somewhere else.

I remember, one time, I found Madison.

She's three years old.

And she was in a sectionof the store we weren't, and I found her, and rightwhen we made eye contact, Madison says, “Daddy, I found you.

” I said, “You found me?” And she said, “Yeah.

” You see, Madison wasn't looking for me.

I was looking for her, andsome of you run around, and is tellin' people, I found Jesus.

No, no, no, Jesus found you.

He's the one on the hunt.

He's the one trying to save.

He's the one seeking that which is lost.

He found you.

“But afterward, Jesusfound him in the temple, “and he told him, 'Now youare well, so stop sinning.

'” So stop sinning.

Look, you're gonna hearabout Sandals Church trying to feed all kinds of people, in the next coming weeks.

I wanna feed bellies.

But I don't want to feedbellies and forsake souls.

We have to do both.

Jesus doesn't just heal the body.

Jesus doesn't just minister to the body.

He saves the soul.

Listen to what Jesus says.

He found him in temple, afterward, he said, “Now you are well, so stop sinning, “or even something worsemay happen to you.

” Something, I want you to thinkabout things that are worse than 38 years, 38 yearsof being handicapped, 38 years of going hungry, 38 years of being isolated, 38 years of being looked over.

For most of us, that's unbearable.

We can't even do eightweeks, with Netflix! Jesus says there are worse things than being lonely and injured and unable to care foryourself, for 38 years.

He says, “Stop sinning “or something worse may happen to you.

” Man, wouldn't you like to have known what this handicapped guy who was healed, wouldn't you like toknow what he was planning to do with his newfound freedom? Some of you, man, you gota whole list of things that you're gonna do, assoon as COVID is over, and many of those things are not godly.

What are you doing? What if the whole purpose ofCOVID is to stop your life, so Jesus can start your soul again? What if that's what this isall about, stopping our lives, so we can start a relationship with Jesus? But many of you, all you're worried about is how you can go back to sinning, as soon as you can getback out of your house.

Jesus says there areworse things than death.

In Matthew 10:28, Jesus says, “Do not fear those who can kill the body, “but cannot kill the soul.

“Rather fear him who candestroy both the body “and the soul in hell.

” Listen to me, friends, the worst thing that canhappen to you is not death.

It's not.

It's spending an eternityapart from Christ.

I lost one of my best friendsin the world, this week.

It was one of the worst days of my life.

But I want you to knowthat I have such comfort, I have such joy, knowingthat I shared Christ with my friend Bob.

I shared Christ with him.

I baptized him, in the Jordan River.

And although my heart achesfor the physical loss, I know my friend Bobis a spiritual victory.

You see, there areworse things than death.

There are worse things than sickness.

The worst thing that can ever happen to you is spending aneternity apart from God.

What if this whole COVIDthing is simply God trying to get you to make the decisionyou know you need to make? Paul says this in Philippians.

In this series, we're in Philippians.

He says: Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed, not only in my presence but now much more in myabsence, listen to this verse, continue, underline that, that means never stop, never stop, continue towork out your salvation with fear and trembling.

Some of you say, well, Pastor, I thought fear was a sin.

Yeah, fear of anything over God is a sin.

But the reason many of you are sinning, it's not because you don'tbelieve that God is love.

It's because you don'tbelieve God should be feared.

That's why you're sinning.

And so you do what you want to do, and you feel like there's no consequence, because we live in a worldthat's allergic to consequence, that's allergic to responsibility.

Here's why fear of God is important.

When I elevate my fear of God, God elevates my love for others.

Leviticus 19:14, everybody loves to throw Leviticus under the bus.

Leviticus is like the Bible'sfavorite punching bag.

Everybody hates Leviticus.

Leviticus has somepowerful scripture in it.

Leviticus 19:14 says: You shall not curse the deaf or put a stumbling block before the blind.

Why, why? But you shall fear your God.

I am the Lord.

Do you know why so many of ourkids are treating one another with such just utter disdain? Do you know why racism is spiking, once again in this country? It's not because wedon't have enough laws.

It's because we've lost our fear of God.

You see, you don't pick onsomebody who's different.

You don't pick onsomebody's who's disabled.

You don't do those things, not because you fear them.

You don't do it, becauseyou fear the Lord.

You see, when I elevate my fear of God, God elevates my love for others.

That's what he does.

Leviticus 25:17: You shallnot wrong one another, but you shall fear your God, for I'm the Lord your God.

That's what he says: I'mGod, and you listen to me, and you treat people the waypeople should be treated, because that's what I said.

That's what I said.

I love this next one, Levitcus 19:32: You shall stand before the gray head.

That's me! You should standup before the gray head and honor the face of an old man.

Our culture despises the aged.

And we honor the young and the ignorant.

I was talking with achurch member, this week, who's heartbroken, because theirchild won't listen to them, and this is what the father, in tears, said to me: Why is it that mychildren don't understand that I love them and wantwhat's best for them? Why is it that they listen topeople who bring them harm, and they don't listen to theone person who loves them? And part of the reason isour culture despises aging.

And we worship youth and not God.

Lastly, when I elevatemy fear of the Lord, God elevates the blessings in my life.

It's right there in front of you: Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord.

You're blessed.

God will bless you.

Look, you want God to elevate you, then you need to elevateyour fear of the Lord.

You need to do it, because one day, you're gonna stand before God, and you're gonna give an account, and you need to be ready.

You need to be ready.

There's a young man in our church that I believe is called to ministry.

He's 19 years old, andlike all of us at 19, we tend to sin and get lost in the world.

And I know we're supposedto social distance, but I texted him this week, and I said, can we get together and talk? Because I believe in this young man.

I believe God wants todo something in his life, and so I texted him.

I said, hey, let me know when you're home, so I can come talk, and he texted me, and he said, I just got home.

I said, great, I'm outside.

I want you to imaginebeing a 19-year-old kid and having to talk to the pastor of your 20, 000-member church, who's come over to your house, just to discuss your wayward ways.

I walked right throughhis house, wearing a mask, all the germophobes, and we met outside.

And I challenged him.

And I said, I am here, today, because I am worried about you, when you stand before God.

I'm worried.

I'm concerned.

And I want you to know that I'm worried about all of you, and I'mworried about all of us.

If you want God to elevate you in heaven, you need to let himelevate your life on earth, and you are not called tolive like everybody else and love like everybody elseand act like everybody else.

You are called to live, love, and learn like Jesus.

That's what you're called to do.

And that's what thisseries is gonna be about.

It's not about puttin' your head down, lookin' at everybody else, blamin' everybody else, but it's about looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith.

And I want you to know, no matter what you've done or where you've been or whoyou think you are or aren't, Jesus Christ died on the cross for you, and he wants to elevate you, today.

He wants to pull you out of the hell that you've placedyourself in, and he wants to prepare you for the heaventhat he's called you to.

That's what he wants to do.

But he will not lift you upuntil you lift your eyes up and you listen to Jesus.

You obey Jesus.

And you change your life.

That's up to you.

Look, I'm praying for you.

Don't miss any of these weeks.

I think they're gonna beuplifting and encouraging.

And I believe God wants to doa great thing in your life, during this series, called Elevate.

Please know I'm praying for you.

Please know I love you.

Please know God wants tominister to you, right now.

Some of you think God's nowhere.

Man, he might be right next to you as you look at your pool of suffering.

He's right there, and he'sready to change your life.

And we can do that, Sandals, even on a screen.

Even on a screen, God can do that.

So stay positive, stay connected, and stay in your faith in Jesus Christ.

Let's pray together.

Heavenly Father, we pray in the powerful, mighty name of Jesus, God, that you would lifteveryone, right now.

I know some people are listening, right now, in their car.

They're listenin' on their headphones.

God, some are listenin' infront of a screen or a TV.

And God, we've convinced ourselves that, that we can only changewhen we're gathered together in a real church setting.

God, you don't needanything but our attention, to change our lives.

So, God, whatever we needto change, right now, I pray your Holy Spirit would speak to us, and we would get our life right with you, in the mighty, powerful name of Jesus, so you can elevate us all.

We pray this in yourname, Jesus Christ, amen.

(gentle music) – Hey, church, what a greatmessage for this season.

Here, we have something reallyexciting for you, today.

We are gonna sing a new song.

It's called “Song of Surrender, ” and you may have heard us already sing it, but we're gonna invite youto sing it with us, today.

The “Song of Surrender, ” for short, we've dubbed it “S.

O.

S.

, “which is a cry for help.

Our help, church, comes from him, him who is able to doexceedingly, abundantly more than what we could everconceive, imagine, or dream of.

And so I want you tolift your voice with us, as we cry out to him for help, today.

♪ Almighty God, would you come ♪ – God, we want you.

♪ We want you ♪ ♪ Oh Lord, we seek you ♪ ♪ With a song of surrender ♪ ♪ We need you ♪ ♪ And we turn toward you ♪ ♪ With a song of surrender ♪ ♪ And we're called by your name ♪ ♪ You've called us to pray ♪ ♪ We're here to seek your face ♪ ♪ Lord, we love you ♪ ♪ We adore you ♪ ♪ And humble our hearts, here before you ♪ ♪ So hear from heaven ♪ ♪ Your people praying ♪ ♪ God, forgive us andheal our nation, yeah ♪ ♪ Oh ♪ – Now sing, we want you.

♪ We want you ♪ ♪ Oh Lord, we seek you ♪ ♪ With a song of surrender ♪ ♪ We need you ♪ ♪ And we turn toward you ♪ ♪ With a song of surrender ♪ ♪ We're called by your name ♪ ♪ You've called us to pray ♪ ♪ We're here to seek your face ♪ – [Steve] Sing it out, we love you.

♪ Lord, we love you ♪ ♪ We adore you ♪ ♪ We humble our hearts, here before you ♪ ♪ So hear from heaven ♪ ♪ Your people praying ♪ ♪ God, forgive us ♪ ♪ And heal our nation ♪ ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Bring heaven, healing, mercy, freedom ♪ ♪ Whoa, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Forgiveness, redemption, revival, salvation ♪ ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Lord, we love you ♪ ♪ Oh, we love you, Lord ♪ ♪ We adore you ♪ ♪ Oh ♪ ♪ So hear from heaven ♪ ♪ Your people praying ♪ ♪ God, forgive us ♪ ♪ And heal our nation ♪ ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Bring heaven, healing, mercy, freedom ♪ ♪ Whoa, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Forgiveness, redemption, revival, salvation ♪ – Come on, sing it out.

♪ Whoa, whoa, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Bring heaven, healing, mercy, freedom ♪ ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Forgiveness, redemption, revival, salvation ♪ ♪ Oh ♪- Thank you, God.

– There's nothing too hard for God to do.

No matter what's going onin your life, right now, you can put your trust inhim, for God is faithful, and he's able to do it.

Let's sing to him, rightnow, just one word.

♪ Just one word ♪ ♪ You calm a storm that surrounds me ♪ ♪ Just one word ♪ ♪ The darkness has to retreat ♪ ♪ With just one touch ♪ ♪ I feel the presence of heaven ♪ ♪ With just one touch ♪ ♪ My eyes were opened to see ♪ ♪ My heart can't help but believe ♪ ♪ There's nothing that God can't do ♪ ♪ There's not a mountainthat he can't move ♪ ♪ Oh praise the name that makes a way ♪ ♪ There's nothing that our God can't do ♪ Woo! ♪ With just one word ♪ ♪ You heal what's broken inside me ♪ ♪ With just one word ♪ ♪ And you revive every dream ♪ ♪ Oh ♪ ♪ With just one touch ♪ ♪ I feel the power of heaven ♪ ♪ With just one touch ♪ ♪ My eyes were opened to see ♪ ♪ My heart can't help but believe ♪ ♪ There's nothing that God can't do ♪ ♪ There's not a mountainthat he can't move ♪ ♪ Oh praise the name that makes the way ♪ ♪ There's nothing that our God can't do ♪ ♪ There's nothing that God can't do ♪ ♪ There's not a prison wallhe can't break through ♪ ♪ Oh praise the name that makes a way ♪ ♪ There's nothing that our God can't do ♪ ♪ Whoa ♪ God, we choose to believe.

We choose to step into thismoment now, your faithful.

♪ I will believe for greater things ♪ ♪ There's not power likethe power of Jesus ♪ ♪ Let faith arise ♪ ♪ Let all agree ♪ ♪ There's no power likethe power of Jesus ♪ ♪ I will believe for greater things ♪ ♪ There's no power likethe power of Jesus ♪ ♪ Let faith arise ♪ ♪ Let all agree ♪ ♪ There's no power likethe power of Jesus ♪ ♪ I will believe for greater things ♪ ♪ There's no power likethe power of Jesus ♪ ♪ Let faith arise ♪ ♪ Let all agree ♪ ♪ There's no power like his power ♪ ♪ There's nothing that God can't do ♪ ♪ There's not a mountainthat he can't move ♪ ♪ Oh praise the name that makes a way ♪ ♪ There's nothing that our God can't do ♪ ♪ Oh, oh, there's nothingthat God can't do ♪ ♪ There's not a prison wallhe can't break through ♪ ♪ Oh praise the name that makes a way ♪ ♪ There's nothing that our God can't do ♪ ♪ Oh, oh ♪ ♪ Whoa, oh, whoa, oh, whoa, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Whoa, whoa, oh, whoa, oh, whoa, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Whoa, oh, whoa, oh, whoa, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Whoa, oh, whoa, oh, whoa, oh, oh, oh, yeah ♪ ♪ Ah ♪ – Church, there's nothingthat our God can't do.

And even in the midst ofall that we're facing, sometimes, it's hard toknow what he's doing.

But trust me, he's moving in our midst.

And let's recall the goodthings that he has done, when we sing this out, I've seen you move.

♪ Oh, Lord ♪ ♪ I've seen you move ♪ ♪ You move mountains ♪ ♪ And I believe I'll see you do it again ♪ ♪ You made a way where there was no way ♪ ♪ And I believe I'll see you do it again ♪ ♪ I've seen you move ♪ ♪ You move the mountains ♪ ♪ And I believe I'll see you do it again ♪ ♪ You made a way where there was no way ♪ ♪ And I believe, oh, I'llsee you do it again ♪ ♪ I've seen you move ♪ ♪ You move the mountains ♪ ♪ And I believe I'll see you do it again ♪ ♪ You made a way where there was no way ♪ ♪ And I believe I'll see you do it again ♪ ♪ I'll see you do it again, oh, oh ♪ ♪ I'll see you do it again, yeah ♪ ♪ Oh faithful God ♪♪ I'll see you do it again ♪ – Yeah! Yeah! Woo! – I'm so thankful for this reminder that God is more than capable and that he can and he stillis moving in our lives.

One of the ways that God continues to move is through his people.

We just heard an incrediblemessage from Pastor Matt Brown, about the importance of community.

We want you to have people in your life.

We want you to have thepeople that are there for you in the mundane, to live outthis vision of being real, no matter what, in the joysand in the tragedy of life.

Would you help us find your people if you don't already have them? You can get connected to a group by going to move.

sc/groups, to find out how you canfind your people, today, and join a group onlineor start one yourself.

We're so thankful that, during this time, we also have access to messages like this so that we can be reminded of the hope that we have in Christ.

And this only happens because you give.

Thank you for giving to Sandals Church so that we can still be together, even when we cannot occupythe same physical space.

Thank you for continuing to bea part of what God is doing, because when you give to Sandals Church, it's not just about finances.

It is about being a partof the movement of God and seeing lives being changed.

And because we want to see lives changed, we want you to share thismessage, let your friends and family know aboutSandals Church online, and we'll see you rightback here, next week.

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how do we only have mulberry and blush in the Cayman okay so I'm gonna get rid of these okay you want me to hold on to the cognac I'm just gonna do the mulberry in the blush okay seven four one four seven nine blush mulberry one of the

hottest hottest styles in fashion this summer is an espadrille sandal you have now an opportunity at the espadrille done but amped up because it's in Jambu and the colors are gorgeous this is a $70 sandal that is in retail and you can get it here for thirty four

ninety thirty for forty nine I think most of you are gonna buy both colors here's the mulberry I love this there's not another shoe in the show that looks like this mulberry and then this is the blush I'll take you on a quick tour you have that beautiful

stable bottom here is where you get into that espadrille fill with a little bit it's about an inch and a quarter of that elevated height across the back you have a padded heel pad that's all set up for you on the inside and then right here that hook

and loop closure that's super simple and check this out it has just a little bit of stretch and give in movement this is an awesome sandal 741 749 Becky isn't it good yeah do you see how flexi flex so normally those flat forms are big clodhoppers this is

light it's kind of a gummy soft step and it really feels good on the foot so instead of being clumpy like flat forms are this gives you the look but it's so much more soft on the foot stretchy gives you that memory foam that were crazy about but

I love the jute the white outsole that's just what screams of the season so this is not sale unlike shearling boots or snow tires I mean this is really the shoe for the moment I love the mulberry I know we don't have a whole lot so I shouldn't

be fawning over this mulberry but if you are watching early and you can get through grab the mulberry before it's gone oh I noticed somebody was able to snatch up the mulberry well I thought I need a little papasan some that's the thing I wear so many basic

colors I really do so look this is that again that blush grace have you been outside have you been tanning have been self-tanning your oh my gosh look how pretty that is I mean a really nice nude shoe sometimes white can be a little bit too stark I

like that that's that soft pretty hue the mulberry gives you a pop of colors if you were a lot of khaki shorts and kind of basics this is a fun way to do your personality color I love the style you know it's somewhat about this is it has

just a little bit of the espadrille yeah it's not it's not a full-on espadrille style it also makes a big difference when you go from a complete flat into just a little bit of a wedge like this exactly if you don't want to do heels this is only

what is this an inch and a quarter inch and a quarter yeah nice lift so think of your ear flip-flops you're right on the ground and you're hanging on for dear life because there's no strap this gives you a sandal like feel but we're secure I mean I'm

gonna walk a little bit and just show you listen there's no flap flap flap there's no toe post you know that's stabbing me in between my feet it's giving me this really nice stable secure step life this is giving you a soft step it's giving you that memory

foam and again with skirts think about it jeans capris Bermudas dress everything's gonna look pretty with that silhouette I know I always have to check I'm touching I'm feeling I'm swearing it's suede and then I look on the inside and I find out that it's completely vegan yep

because if you touch it like I want to show look at the reptile print there's almost this animal skin feeling and if I close my eyes and I run my hands over those I think it sneaks right it feels so genuine and that's another 100 almost suede it

look how pretty this is I can't get over the fact that this is $34 let me show this to so on the back you've got that little bit of goring this is important if you again have high arches on high instep on your foot if you swell when

you walk if you're thinking about going back into the theme parks you're on vacation you've got that sporty lifestyle where you don't want to stop and change your shoes throughout the day right this is a shoe that's gonna carry you all through the day I don't need to

worry about a fussy buckle all I do is that hook and loop closure slide it right on close it but no one knows it because it looks completely like a functioning buckle fussy buckle I think that's gonna be our band name Heather it's called happy careful how you

use it if that was how I got in and out I wouldn't get this sandal if I had to be like on say oh girl I'm like a three year old I want I and I want if these heels could light up I'd get those too but it's

jazzier it's ladylike so espadrille is that jute you know that's what you see for springtime if you saw this shoe for you know $69 at a warehouse store at a department store you'd say yep absolutely that's what shoes go for when you see them like all of that

styling the white outsole and this is that difference this is that see how flexi that's the difference so if some flat forms truly are flat they do not flex and guess what you sound like like a herd of elephants coming down the street right clock clock clock not

with this it's a very light soft step that white outsole is all the rage in fashion let's talk about that that's a globe it yeah I remember seeing it when it came on the scene it was very high-end designer that did it and I wasn't sure because it

was probably four inches all in the sneaker it was it was very remember bold and so what happens is if you're more of a classic dresser here's what the trick that we do we'll wait for it to pass and when it comes around and it's kind of sits

into our sweet spot that's when we act that's what this is so you get that high-end style but it's been refined it's got that little one and a quarter inch that we can all handle as far as sizing goes this is available in full sizes and half sizes

I did want to tell you unfortunately ladies we've sold out of a seven across the board in both colors grace is wearing the blush we have Becky who's wearing the mulberry if you want the mulberry we're now inside of 200 total units and remember full sizes and half

sizes so we're single digits and a majority of them in the mulberry but before we sell out I just want to show you it's almost that reptile snakeskin feel to the back on the mulberry you have that beautiful goring that's helping with stretch and comfort and movement and

ease again that hook and loop closure so you can slide right in you don't have to unbuckle anything across the bottom right here there's that jute that espadrille style and then the outsole and that athleisure bright white that we see so much inch-and-a-quarter elevation this is the mulberry

if you want the mulberry we now have about 170 total units of the mulberry here is the blush the blush plays like a gorgeous nude it's it's a topi blush I would say oh it's very soft it's just a kiss of blush good that's a good description just

a kiss of blush let me bring you onto our website because we've such a weight in the call center right now like if you picked up last hour this was from Fagan vine it's a really great little dress look how pretty the blush would tie back to I

would tell you to go online first of all process your Jambu orders online that's the best way to get through but also we have a sneaky little afternoon show for style HQ we started a little early today and there was some really good fashion finds the dress that

I have on right now is fig and vine it is done in blue and hot pink I'm actually looking over my shoulder there at the great style can you see I've taken quite a haircut since then I got back into the salon today and I cut three inches

off of there like a new woman pretty I realized throughout the years that I like short hair better on I like that right at the shoulder that's really feels like it feels good here's the top that grace has on this was from indigo thread company this is our

this day only look at how beautiful that openwork crochet detail is there's about 30 of you that can pick it up in the red and I wanted to show the color there there's red there's Navy in there sand because the shoe that we have on set in the

blush would work with any of those tops huh it is it's like a shapeshifter when you work with nudes like that you really get more like longevity more mileage out of that because it's gonna pair back and what's so nice too is that you may have different style

sensibilities jeonbu gets it this is outdoor inspired so if you're kind of high key by key taking the kids hiking and camping you love this but if you're a fashionista you see all the elements the white outsole the jute the beautiful reptilian design I love that we all

get to shop together comfort ystos fashionistas all of us I'm a budget too used to all of us kind of agree this is a really smart Buy it's an amazing shoe for the price that you're paying this is an amazing shoe for $69 right really I mean if

it was if it was out here right now it's $69 on value pay I would be thrilled about it I would be telling you it's a killer investment because you're going to get four or five six seven seasons out of this it's got such classic designs it's got

that jute design with a little bit of the espadrille fun summer color that blush is the quintessential neutral now because it's also done in vegan materials but you can just wipe it to keep it clean absolutely sometimes I'll grab a magic eraser around any of my sneakers or

white outsoles just to keep them nice and fresh and clean but it is jeonbu quality so I don't want you to think the price and I want that to fool you you are getting a nationwide brand that's been around for you know decade trying to really change the

way we feel about our feet with comfort and style five dollars and seventy five cents I want you to think about that price like five dollars and 75 cents is your value pay we are just hitting our stride for warm weather across the country right now if you're

looking for a fabulous sandal that is lightweight that is flexible that has cush that has comfort and has fashion this is the shoe that I think is one of the best buys of the entire shelf or you to get ready to move on there's blush or there's mulberry

741 479 the blushes just flat out more wearable the mulberry is a great little fashion

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HE HAS IT UNDER THE BED AND HE GETS OUT FROM UNDER THE BED .

I MEAN , HERE'S THE THING .

THIS CAN WORK IN ANYBODY'S HOME IN A SMALL SPACE .

AND YES , WE'RE TALKING ABOUT THOSE OF US WHO ARE AGING , YOU KNOW .

BUT GUESS WHAT ? THE YOUNGER .

AND HERE'S THE GUY I'M TALKING , OK , THIS IS IT .

RYAN IS BETTER .

BUT THE YOUNGER PEOPLE ARE LIKING THIS , TOO , BY THE WAY .

LET ME ASK MIKE , CAN I HAVE ONE ? I LIKE CHRIS .

I KNOW WE'RE WE'RE ALMOST UP ON ON THE CLOCK .

CHRISTIE GO THROUGH FIVE EXERCISES REALLY FAST FOR EVERYBODY THAT'S JUST TUNING .

GIVE US FIVE EXERCISES .

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EVERYBODY AT WATCH .

ALL RIGHT .

SO RIGHT HERE , CARDIO AND CORE , RIGHT ? GET IN THOSE AB MUSCLES .

NO STRAIN ON THE NETS .

ONE BACK OF THE ARMS .

RIGHT THERE .

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BRING IT DOWN ON THE FLOOR .

OK .

PUT IT ON YOUR OTTOMAN .

RIGHT .

RIGHT HERE .

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SHOULDERS , ARMS AND AB .

GOT IT .

COME THIS WAY .

THIS IS WHAT WE CALL OUR OB LEAKS .

OUR WAIST AREA FOR FOUR RIGHT THERE .

COME THIS WAY .

NO SQUATS , NO LUNGES .

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WHAT ABOUT ME ? I MEAN , THIS IS SIX CARDIO CYCLE .

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I MEAN , SERIOUSLY , WE JUST WENT THROUGH SEVEN EXERCISE IN ABOUT TEN SECONDS .

OH , AND THE PUSH UPS AND THE NUTS , OK .

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IT'S IMPORTANT FOR ME THAT YOU FEEL GOOD BECAUSE IF YOU FEEL GOOD AND YOU START MOVING YOUR LIFE , IT'S GOING TO BE ENHANCED .

YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO BE SO MUCH BETTER IF YOU FEEL BETTER .

YOU KNOW , IF YOU DON'T FEEL BETTER , YOU'RE NOT GETTING IN THE GAME OF LIFE .

YOU'RE NOT PARTICIPATING .

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SO 0 0 2 1 2 2 IS YOUR ITEM NUMBER BRAND NEW HOLIDAY PRICE OF UNDER FORTY DOLLARS .

WE'VE SOLD THIRTY FOUR THOUSAND OF THESE AND IT DOES COME ONE HUNDRED PERCENT ASSEMBLED .

I LOVE THAT FEATURE THAT IT'S ONE HUNDRED PERCENT ASSEMBLED WITH THREE DIFFERENT LEVELS OF RESISTANCE .

EVERYONE BEGINNER , INTERMEDIATE AND ALSO MORE DIFFICULT .

OKAY .

HERE'S WHAT WE'RE GOING TO DO .

WE'RE GOING TO MOVE INTO TRUE ENERGY .

BUT LET ME SHARE WITH YOU .

WENDY IS GOING TO BE ON TOMORROW AT 1:00 P.

M.

EASTERN WITH WARREN DONNER OF NEW YORK .

HE IS BACK HERE AT SHOP HQ .

THIS IS GOING TO BE A BRAND NEW ITEM FOR THEIR SHOW .

FIRST TIMERS , THIS GORGEOUS BLAZER .

AND IT'S GOING TO BE AND TOO POPULAR ANIMAL PRINTS THAT TIGER OR THAT PYTHON .

ALL RIGHT , EVERYONE , IF YOU WANT THAT ITEM NUMBER , IT'S 7 4 5 1 , 4 , 3 .

OK .

SO THAT'S WARREN DONNER OF NEW YORK .

NOW WE STILL HAVE THE BIKE .

IT'S GETTING VERY , VERY LIMITED .

FEWER THAN A HUNDRED OF THESE IN THE GRAY BLACK CHOICE .

OH , MY GOSH .

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THE BIKE .

I HAVE SO MUCH FUN ON THE BIKE AND IT'S UNDER A HUNDRED AND FIFTY DOLLARS .

EVERYBODY 0 0 2 2 7 4 .

LET'S TALK ABOUT A CLASS ONE MEDICAL DEVICE THAT IS FDA REGISTERED TRUE ENERGY , THE INFRARED COMPRESSION OVER THE CALF SOCKS AND A THREE PACK .

I HAVE THEM IN A SMALL MEDIUM .

THE LARGE EXTRA LARGE .

WE HAVE THEM FOR YOU IN THE BLACK OR THE WHITE .

BUT IT'S ALL ABOUT THAT INFRARED TECHNOLOGY AND COMPRESSION .

WE HAVE A PURCHASE WITH PURCHASE IF YOU WANT AD ON THE MID .

IT'S GOING TO BE ITEM NUMBER 0 0 2 3 6 9 .

IF YOU WANT TO ADD ON THE ANKLE , IT'S 0 0 2 2 3 4 AND WE WILL REDUCE YOUR SHIPPING AND HANDLING ON THOSE .

CHRIS IS BACK WITH TRUE ENERGY .

THE INFRARED COMPRESSION .

EVERYBODY'S TALKING ABOUT IT .

YOU LAUNCH THESE RIGHT BEFORE FALL .

WE DID .

AND THEY SOLD OUT SUPER SIGHT OUT .

AS YOU SAID , AN FDA REGISTERED STOCK .

YES , A CLASS ONE MEDICAL DEVICE .

THINK ABOUT THAT .

I SAY , WHAT ARE YOU DOING ? ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT HIGH SOCKS ? SOCKS MATTER .

A LOT OF PEOPLE BLAME THAT .

BLAME THEIR PAIN ON THEIR SHOES .

AND I ALWAYS SAY , WELL , WHAT SOCKS ARE YOU WEARING ? BECAUSE THESE ARE SOCKS THAT ARE COMPRESSION COMBINED WITH INFRARED TECHNOLOGY .

I DO BELIEVE THE ONLY ONE THAT I'VE HEARD OF THAT IS INFUSED WITH INFRARED TO HELP YOU REDUCE THE ACHES AND PAINS TO IMPROVE YOUR CIRCULATION , TO FEEL BETTER , TO HAVE MORE ENERGY IN YOUR FEET AND YOUR CALVES AND THE OVER THE CALF MODEL .

YES , IT'S MY FAVORITE .

I'M GOING TO TELL YOU WHY .

OK .

BECAUSE , YOU KNOW , I THINK BACK TO MY MOM BACK IN THE 70S , SHE WORE A COMPRESSION HOSE .

SHE DID .

AND IT WAS LIKE ONE OF THOSE THINGS WHERE SHE HAD VARICOSE VEINS .

BUT IT WAS ONE OF THOSE THINGS WHERE IT TOOK LIKE THREE OF OUR FAMILY MEMBERS TO PULL UP EVERY MORNING .

OH , I KNEW YOU'D THINK OF THESE COMPRESSION ITEMS LIKE SOMETHING THAT WAS SO HARD TO DO OR MEDICAL .

RIGHT .

RIGHT .

WELL , GUESS WHAT COMPRESSION IS FOR EVERYDAY PEOPLE NOW , COMPRESSION IS ACTUALLY THE IDEA OF GIVING A LITTLE HUG TO AN AREA THAT NEEDS A LITTLE ATTENTION .

AND HERE'S WHAT COMPRESSION DOES FOR YOU .

IT AIDS IT MUST RECOVERY .

IT SUPPORTS YOUR MUSCLES .

IT GIVES YOU 24 HOUR COMFORT .

THIS IS.

yeah yeah in today's video I'm going to show youhow to make this super simple barefoot sandal pattern.

I'm going to beusing a miniature TIDBIT size of Be So Fine Yarn available on my website and asize d hook which is 3.

25 mm so let's get started we're going tostart you're welcome to do a slip knot if you prefer and prefer tying a solidnot on to my crochet hook Start with a chain 5 slip stitch into the 5th chainfrom hook to form a ring Chain 12, single crochet into the ring.

Chain 12, single crochet into the ring again.

Repeat this eight more times andon the 9th chain-12 space I'll show you how we finish this off a little bitdifferently at the end.

Chain 7 and a double trouble intothe ring.

Yarn over three times insert the hook into the chain-5space, yarn over pull up a loop, yarn over pull through two, yarn over pull throughtwo, yarn over pull through two yarn over pull through two and the reason we dothat is because we want to end up at the top center of this chain-12 space.

Chain 4 (counts as a double crochet, chain 1 space) double crochet into same chain-12 space.

chain 4, and in thenext chain 12 space double crochet, chain one, double crochet.

Start with a yarn over, insert hook into the chain 12 space yarn over, pull up a loop, yarn over, pullthrough two, yarn over pull through two, chain one, we're going to do a doublecrochet in the same space again.

Yarn over, insert your hook in the chain-12space, yarn over, pull up a loop, yarn over, pull through two, yarn overpull through two, chain 4.

By the way I don't think i mentioned what coloryarn I'm using.

This is called harbor fog and Be So Fine Yarn comes in 17 hand-dyedcolorways this is like a really light silvery sage Ocean-y, stormy sea kind of a color.

Chain 4.

A very soft color Double crochet, chain1, double crochet in the next chain-12 space, yarn over your hook, insert yourhook in the chain 12 space, yarn over, pull up a loop, yarn over pullthrough two, yarn over pull through two, chain 1, double crochet in the same space.

Chain 4, In the next chain-12 space, double crochet, chain 1, double crochet, chain 4 double crochet, chain 1, and doublecrochet.

We're going to do this all the way around and then I'll show you how wefinish this round and start the last round ok I've made it all the way aroundworking (double crochet, chain 1, double crochet) in each chain-12 space anddoing a chain 4, (double crochet, chain 1, double crochet) in thenext chain-1 space we did it all the way around ended with the chain 4 andnow we're going to slip stitch to the top of the third chain at the beginningof the round, the chain 3 counts as the double crochet of that chain 4 space sothat we had a (double crochet, chain 1, double crochet).

Slipstitch into that chain 1 space now chain 4 again, which also counts as a (double crochet, chain 1) and we're going to doublecrochet in that same chain 1 space so that we have that V stitch formation inthe v-stitch formation of the previous round so we're going to now chain 5 so thisround is very similar to the round before instead of doing chain fourspaces between our (double crochet, chain 1, double crochets) we're now going todo a chain 5 in between them and otherwise our V stitch or (double crochet, chain 1, double crochet) is exactly the same but it's worked into a chain onespace instead of a chain 12 space so it looks like that chain 5 and then the only one that we'regoing to do a little bit differently is the one that has its position for ourtoe ring because these aren't just triangular motifs they're going to bebarefoot sandals this particular pattern for barefootsandals is really, really easy and quick to work up this would be a great projectover a weekend to do for a wedding party like a beach wedding that would be sosuper cute let me just make sure I met the rightone.

I went too far so we're going to back up one morespot ok so we did our first v-stitch secondand third on the fourth one we want to prepare for our toe ring so what we're going to change 13 totaland then double crochet in a second time in that same chain onespace and just set this down so you can see what i mean and i'll set it side byside with our finished one you can definitely compare them and see what I'mtalking about okay see how that would be our first oneand then we did two regular ones so that was our first one we did two regularones and so this particular v stitch is then double crochet chain 13 doublecrochet and now the rest of the round will be in the otherwise establishedpattern of chain 5 and then (double crochet, chain 1, double crochet) in the chain 1 space.

okay we've come to the end of the roundwe're going to finish with the chain 5 slip stitch to the third chain ofthe chain 4 space the beginning of the round to join then we're going to slipstitch into the chain-1 space and we're now going to chain 150 to do thetie on this side.

Count 150 and fasten off on thatside and then when you finish that you want to come back and on the oppositecorner here you'll slip stitch to join and chain 150 there and then I want toshow you how I finish these after you fasten them off you want to tie a couple of knots in theend it helps the end from all unraveling and it also gives you a little moreweight so that they sit really nicely once you tie them up your leg.

if youdecide to make these, especially you decide to make them for a beach wedding please send me pictures I'd love to seethe barefoot sandals that you make.